Divorce: perparing for the war

[Stormieweather]

Where's the vent? So I can get the backstory...

Kids are the innocent victims in a divorce. They don't deserve the hurts they receive as a result of the machinations involved in a family breaking up.

So my first suggestion would be to try to resolve this through talking, as Classic said. Is there a specific reason she said you won't be talking to your child? Or just vindictiveness? Does she care at all about the child's well-being? Seeing both parents IS in the best interests of the child (unless you are an axe murderer or rapist or child molester or something else horrible). And it's the law. So if she refuses to consider complying with the law and insists on being unreasonable, I would probably play hardball and go for full custody.

I have read snippets that lead me to believe this issue spans the US/Canadian border? There are plenty of legalities involved with visitation/custody/support when it's international, I highly recommend a good lawyer to help you with this.

Also, be proactive, don't just react to her. Decide what you want and go after it, instead of wait for her to attack and then defend.