How does one become okay with being single?

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Originally Posted by mr.moons

Does that mean I'm unfit to have a girlfriend(?)

"Unfit" is an interesting word choice. Would you say that you feel you deserve a girlfriend? Because that in itself is a backwards and self-defeating way of thinking about other people. It verges close on the idea that an individual woman, or women in general, owe you something.

Is there a particular woman in your life whom you are interested in? Because if the answer is that you would be interested in pretty much anyone, then you're not going to be offering much in return to a hypothetical girlfriend--the vibe you'll be giving off (and women are very good at picking up on this kind of attitude) is that she is not special, that you will only see her as "my girlfriend" and not "Susan" or whoever. It doesn't even matter if you would lavish her with gifts and attention in her role as your girlfriend, if you would do it for anyone then she'll know she's got no real connection from you.