About at my journey's end - Page 5

footfootfoot · 06-04-2011, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by BigV

What is Mrs Foot's degree of dedication to the union?
She mostly is dedicated
I realize that you might (probably) want to ignore this question here, STFU, perfectly fine responses. I ask from my own experience. As plain as it is to say out loud, it was surprisingly easy to overlook in my own thoughts at the time. I might want to keep the marriage intact, but if Tink wanted to end it, it was over. Each party has the right and the ability to end it (passively, consciously, actively, neglectfully, etc etc.). It takes two to make it work.

Do you want it to work? I would like that

Does she want it to work?She would like that

Is the desire of each explicitly known to the other?yes

Unless you have three yes answers in a row there, you absolutely have a deal breaking problem.

That being said, wanting it to work and being willing to do the work to make it work are two different things

As someone once said, the reason they call it work is because it isn;t a vacation

BigV · 06-04-2011, 09:55 PM

Excellent. These answers are, as you clearly know, necessary but not sufficient.

Knowing what you each want is a *BIG* deal in your favor, having both answers be "Yes" is an even *bigger* deal. Excellent.

footfootfoot · 06-08-2011, 01:04 PM

In recent news Homegirl has completely lost the plot. I am now quietly setting everything in place to make my exit. The nature of things means this will be a process of about 6 months to a year. I'm done and looking ahead now.

Every man for himself and God against them all

BigV · 06-08-2011, 01:15 PM

good lord.

glatt · 06-08-2011, 01:17 PM

Gook luck, foot. I'm sorry for you that it's come to this, but I hope it goes as smoothly as possible from here.

classicman · 06-08-2011, 01:19 PM

Sad and sorry to hear that. Be well...

Undertoad · 06-08-2011, 01:26 PM

Whatever you do, don't keep the house. I know, you put a lot into it.

jimhelm · 06-08-2011, 01:27 PM

shit.

sorry, bro.

footfootfoot · 06-08-2011, 01:32 PM

Thanks guys. I don't want the house, I want my sanity back.

infinite monkey · 06-08-2011, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by footfootfoot

Thanks guys. I don't want the house, I want my sanity back.

I know this feeling. I left the house and took my car and my things. I just wanted my sanity intact, which wouldn't have happened had I fought or bickered over stuff. Of course, there weren't children involved, for us.

Good luck to you.

Griff · 06-08-2011, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by footfootfoot

Thanks guys. I don't want the house, I want my sanity back.

I think this is a good choice. take care Bro

kerosene · 06-08-2011, 04:57 PM

I am sorry, footy. I know things will get better for you, eventually. We are all here for ya.

skysidhe · 06-09-2011, 09:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by footfootfoot

Thanks guys. I don't want the house, I want my sanity back.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Griff

I think this is a good choice. take care Bro

I agree. Having a higher sense of self, instead of it being filtered through the bias, of the other person is better.

It's just maneuvering through the highs and lows until you find that good inner plateau I wish you luck for. ( and anyone who is going through this )

Spexxvet · 06-08-2011, 01:43 PM

Good luck F3. Be happy.

Undertoad · 06-08-2011, 02:02 PM

rooting for you.

06-04-2011, 09:55 PM	#2
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Excellent. These answers are, as you clearly know, necessary but not sufficient. Knowing what you each want is a BIG deal in your favor, having both answers be "Yes" is an even bigger deal. Excellent. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

06-08-2011, 01:04 PM	#3
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	In recent news Homegirl has completely lost the plot. I am now quietly setting everything in place to make my exit. The nature of things means this will be a process of about 6 months to a year. I'm done and looking ahead now. Every man for himself and God against them all __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

06-08-2011, 01:15 PM	#4
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	good lord. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

06-08-2011, 01:19 PM	#6
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Sad and sorry to hear that. Be well... __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

06-08-2011, 01:27 PM	#8
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	shit. sorry, bro. __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

06-08-2011, 01:17 PM	#5
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Gook luck, foot. I'm sorry for you that it's come to this, but I hope it goes as smoothly as possible from here.

06-08-2011, 01:26 PM	#7
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Whatever you do, don't keep the house. I know, you put a lot into it.

06-08-2011, 01:32 PM	#9
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Thanks guys. I don't want the house, I want my sanity back. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

06-08-2011, 04:57 PM	#12
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	I am sorry, footy. I know things will get better for you, eventually. We are all here for ya.

06-08-2011, 01:43 PM	#14
Spexxvet Makes some feel uncomfortable Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 10,346	Good luck F3. Be happy. __________________ "I'm certainly free, nay compelled, to spread the gospel of Spex. " - xoxoxoBruce

06-08-2011, 02:02 PM	#15
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	rooting for you.

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