My sis...

[morethanpretty]

I'm not as upset with her at this point as I am my parents. I'm not really upset with her at all, for her I'm worried.
All I want is for the negative consequences to be takin into serious consideration. Yes, they should possibly prolong the engagement. If its the right person, then why would a bit extra time to confirm that "feeling" really cause harm? No they should take some extra time to be sure they have the same goals (i.e. # kids, social status, ect). Sure they might not have complete control over those things, but its wouldn't it be best if they agreed and knew what the other had in mind? There are a ton of things couples will forget to consider in the rush to get married. If nothing else they could take some relationship classes before hand. I don't give a fuck if she just "knows" or has the right "feeling." Those aren't logical enough reasons to get yourself into such a difficult situation to get out of. Financially as well as emotionally. The majority of those who have gotten divorced or just are unhappily married, most likely thought it felt absolute right when they decided to marry also.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

I'm not as upset with her at this point as I am my parents.

But you're always upset with your parents.

[morethanpretty]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

But you're always upset with your parents.

Incorrect.

[Nirvana]

Be happy for your sister, dance at her wedding and eat cake! What you think unfortunately is irrelevant in this situation and making a stink about it is the wrong way to go! My sister married an asshole, I knew she was going to marry an asshole but nothing I could have or would have said would deter her. Its not even worth telling them "I told you so" years later when they divorce [because he was an asshole] Don't hurt your sister's feelings, you will regret it the rest of your life. Be happy for her!