For the Longest Time...

[lookout123]

Maybe I'll even find a gay guy there! they are european after all...

if that is what floats your boat, go for it, i used the traditional man/woman as an example.

ok, so you know one person at that school but she's not popular. so? do you actually LIKE the popular people? most of them when will be sweeping up popcorn at the theatre when you are on the screen in a few years, quit worrying about them. people are people. in fact, if you make the conscious decision to NOT TRY to get in with the in crowd, you will actually be given access faster anyway. the in crowd is used to everyone trying to get in with them. people who don't do what you expect are intriguing. but back to the first goal: Be a friend. you have a female friend from that school already. Unless she is bad news or generally unhealthy for you to be around, be the best friend to her that you can possibly be. don't be desperate and use her to "get in" - she'll know the difference. be a friend. enjoy her company. if nothing else pans out you will have a person to enjoy your time with.

i will make you one promise - the harder you try to get into the in crowd, the harder it will be to get in. people (women especially) smell fear, desperation, and loneliness and it is a huge turn off. you will see this when you are older at the bars. the stud who shows up looking to get laid goes home alone, while the average guy who is relaxed and friendly has more attention than he knows what to do with. romance is a commodity and the more you "need" it, the harder it is to come by. be a friend. the rest will fall into place.

[freshnesschronic]

Originally Posted by Spectacle

Love is not limited to the elderly, it arrives spontaneously to anyone no matter their age, location or issue. Love cannot be controlled.

Just because more mature people seem like the stereotypical "people who fall in love" does not make it more true than the two high school sweet hearts who elope.

It is yourself who makes it challenging to find love, which is actually the easiest part of courtship, because love itself is the most challenging thing you will ever discover.

Right on.

Originally Posted by lookout123

i will make you one promise - the harder you try to get into the in crowd, the harder it will be to get in. people (women especially) smell fear, desperation, and loneliness and it is a huge turn off. you will see this when you are older at the bars. the stud who shows up looking to get laid goes home alone, while the average guy who is relaxed and friendly has more attention than he knows what to do with. romance is a commodity and the more you "need" it, the harder it is to come by. be a friend. the rest will fall into place.

Oh yeah!
I can't really think of a good contribution so I will promote the already good contributions.

[glatt]

Originally Posted by lookout123

romance is a commodity and the more you "need" it, the harder it is to come by. be a friend. the rest will fall into place.

I think that's true. But the next part is that you need to be paying attention and open to it when it comes.