Identity

[Ibby]

Thanks, UT. I think that helped a bit... though I'm not sure there's, like, anything TO help. I'm not like, upset, or anything - just confused, and a bit frustrated. I'm fairly happy with myself - I just wish I had some kind of gender I could identify as.

[monster]

Originally Posted by Ibram

I just wish I had some kind of gender I could identify as.

Why? Who wants to be part of the herd?

What parts of the the female stereotype do you not identify with? What part of the male sterotypes? Which parts do you identify with?

What parts of the teen stereotype do you identify with? Do they outnumber those of the gender stereotypes?

How important are the gender identities?

How many posters here would you be able to tell the sex of without them telling you or making direct references to it?

And how many the age?

You clearly identify with the thinkers and the shit-stirrers, and I reckon you could do worse

I'm about as girly as a fart with follow-through (), but I don't care. I tried to, for a short while, when I was a teenager, then I gave up.

You're doing just fine, imo.

[wolf]

Originally Posted by Ibram

I just wish I had some kind of gender I could identify as.

From your preceding posts, here and elsewhere, I'm not thinking your issue is really about gender identity. You haven't said anything indicating a particular discomfort or dislike of your manly bits, right?

You're also under some stress related to your relationship with Caro, and while you've indicated that you're feeling pretty much bi, you've not indicated that you've acted on that, although I certainly understand that any such opportunities would be very limited in Asia, because of the different cultural mores.

Just be you, don't try to be someone else's conceptualization of who you should be.

[xoxoxoBruce]

You haven't said anything indicating a particular discomfort or dislike of your manly bits, right?

He must dislike his manly bits, he's been trying to yank them off for years