Praying to everything that is holy

[Sundae]

Damn, just lost a long reply I'd typed - bloody Macs. Obviously you can't use ctrl X to cut and paste...

A precis:
What you said wasn't necessarily wrong, but the way you said it obviously was. How do I know when I didn't hear you? Because of the way your girlfriend reacted. It doesn't matter how rational you sound in your own head - if you hangs up on you it's not effective communication.

You need to work on this - in case another situtaion comes up where you just want to give her information she can use for her own protection.

She will probably be okay. I got horribly drunk at 17 thanks to a drinking game that involved mental arithmatic (my bete noire). My competitive spirit kept me in the game, but once I started losing I had no chance. I had to swig from a pint glass full of mixed spirits and I had no experience of drinking them - I was allowed wine at home but that was it. The friend I am now going to live with in London was the one who pulled me out of the game - and then promptly deposited me with a guy I had had a crush on for years. He was one of the good guys (as my friend knew and I was too drunk to question) and walked me round the block, brought me water, talked me through it. Weirdly, it was a bonding experience and we were close for years afterwards.

It could have ended very differently, and I do understand your worry. But errors of judgement (in who can be trusted, by drunk people I mean ) can't really be planned for. All you can do is hope she doesn't end up in a situation where a predator overcomes her better judgement, and that her friends are watching out for her.

Good luck to you both, and I hope you are worrying unnecessarily.