Putting Out the Lights

[Deuce]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Deuce, I'm not trying to be critical here, but if it's so bad, can't you do something about your marriage?

Sure, I see three options.

Continue with no changes, keep suffering. Poor choice.

Divorce, worse choice.

Work to improve our marriage. Best choice.

Continue with no changes. This has the superficial appeal of being "easy" since no difficult changes are required. But the accumulation of all that deferred maintenance can make everything else anything but easy. I don't like conflict, so avoiding the problem has real appeal to me. But I know it's not a solution.

Divorce. Well, like suicide, this has a certain permanency to it. Like suicide, it avoids the problem, instead of solves it. It's an "option", but one I am loathe to take. I don't want divorce. I want harmony. I want togetherness. I want a shared life.

Work to improve our marriage. Best choice. Hardest work, greatest reward, longest (unending) path. There's more to this choice, my choice, than I have time or room to post just now. But this is what I'm doing.