Getting over it: how to do it?

[DucksNuts]

Oh A.A, I'm so sorry for your pain, I really am. I feel your pain, for putting your heart and soul into this relationship, to have him walk away.

I dont think you need to class this as an all new low though, the people here are *real* people and their advice is wonderful. Its great to spill this kinda stuff to people that arent close to you or your life as they often see things more clearly.

Anyways, being a long term member of the broken heart club, I shall give you my take on it....

You HAVE to allow yourself this time to grieve, its normal, its healthy and although it hurts like hell....its necessary.

Dont even think about moving onto someone else, its not fair to the other party or yourself....wait until you are over your heartbreak to start a new relationship. This might be a months time, or it might be in 6 months time (my problem is getting back on the horse).

Endorphins are like crack for me, so when I am depressed or down, I exercise. That might sound a bit daft, but you will be amazed how great you will feel, even if you just take a brisk walk....make it at your favorite time of day, take some up beat music and off you go.

Wallow in it, I find this helps occasionally. Put your favorite sad song on repeat and wallow like you have never wallowed before. Dim room, desired poison (chocolate, cheese n crackers, etc). Get your girlfriends over and watch that movie that makes you cry....just make a big nite of it.

I know I am basically over the worst of it when I wake in the morning (or middle of the nite) and not have that instant pain and realisation that its over....then I know I am moving on.

St John's Wort is a bit of a mood stabiliser and a common herb used to treat depression...it cant hurt?

Good luck doll, I wish you all the best