Assumptions about other Cellar users

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by Rock Steady

I need to be reassured daily. I need to feel the love. We should have a Daily Reassurance Thread for all us insecure dregs to beat ourselves up in.

Do you feel it fair for you to put the burden of your comfort on other people?

[Rock Steady]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Do you feel it fair for you to put the burden of your comfort on other people?

No. I do not require you to read my posts. Any burden you may have is self inflicted.

But, seriously, I need positive feedback in the workplace. If people don't appreciate my work, I feel bad about myself. I tie my self worth to my career too much, and in jobs I have had some low lows and high highs, never a dull moment.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by Rock Steady

But, seriously, I need positive feedback in the workplace. If people don't appreciate my work, I feel bad about myself. I tie my self worth to my career too much, and in jobs I have had some low lows and high highs, never a dull moment.

That's too bad, you know if you've done a good job or not, but if you don't hold a grudge against cow-orkers that don't gush as much as you desire, at least you're only hurting yourself.
Still, it's a shame to put yourself through that.

[Rock Steady]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

That's too bad, you know if you've done a good job or not, but if you don't hold a grudge against cow-orkers that don't gush as much as you desire, at least you're only hurting yourself.
Still, it's a shame to put yourself through that.

I know what you are saying. But, you must realize that this is not Black and White but in full technicolor.

For me, all I need are the basic, normal human considerations, which doesn't happen at an arrogant company.

As for co-workers, actually, in 1999 I managed a group of 5 software engineers. One guy was way too needy. Even though I met with each of them every day, this guy left the building with me each day and spoke in the parking lot with me for a half hour before I could go home. After a while, some people in the company noticed and we talked about how this guy was draining my energy.

There is a big difference between Needy and Normal. EVERYONE deserves a certain amount of feedback in the workplace.