I know this isn't Oprah but...

[Catwoman]

Onyx, I know you're right. She does want more than friends with him. He will always have access to her pussy, and 'a c**t's a c**t no matter what gut it's hung from' to quote someone I know.

So do I withdraw friendship as well? Surely that would be stupid - am I not mature and rational enough to maintain an adult friendship (once I know where I stand) without obscuring it with feelings? Sex things cum and go but.... well I think this is one friend I'd like to keep, romantic feelings aside. Are you saying this gives him the wrong impression? If I am absolutely clear with him about my feelings it can only impact our friendship and I don't want that to happen 1) because I genuinely value his friendship and 2) because just cos it may not be right now, I don't want to jeopardise a future relationship because I said the wrong thing at the wrong time. Does that make sense?

And the syphillis thing... she's not sleeping with anyone else, hasn't for ages (she's hoping for a relationship too). What a mess.

Beestie thanks for the strength I need it and it was a joke about the Haagen Dazs thing... we have it here too, and 'rent money' is a term for prostitute money, hence the sordid ice cream, sex and STD connection... Never mind, remind me not to attempt to make jokes when in the proverbial dumps.