I know this isn't Oprah but...

[OnyxCougar]

Originally posted by Catwoman


But he does kind of know how I feel!

How do you know what he knows? You CANNOT base any action (or inaction) on what you THINK he knows. That is a recipe for disaster.

I've told him I like him, I've slept with him, I've told him I find it hard now she's back. Surely that adds up - he's not stupid. I think I'm waiting for him to say 'I've decided I don't want her, I want you, let me whisk you away' which of course he wont while we're both still sat on the table, legs open and hungry (can't be bothered to correct implausible metaphor).

Insert Radar-like attitude here: Why should he want to change what he has? He's got sex from her, he's got your "friendship" and care. Why would any guy want to change that?

So have decided to leave the table. Not going to have any relationship above friends while he's sleeping with her. If he's bothered, it'll show right? He'll say something? If not, I do have enough self respect to forget about it. (Not, you would think, something that was immediately apparent in previous post).

Even if you cut him off sexually, he's still getting the pussy from her. He doesn't need yours.

Obviously, i'ts more to the female living with you than "friends that fuck" at this point, or it wouldn't be an issue for you to tell her "While you were gone, we started a relationship." If they were just friends, she shouldn't have a problem with that.

You need to decide in your heart and your head what you are willing to live with. Once that's decided, put it out on the table. "I have feelings for you, and I need to know if you want a relationship or not. If so, great, sex with miss thang is over, and if she can't accept that, she moves out. If not, then I can't handle your relationship with her, and I'm moving out. (If that is what you've decided to do.)

Bottomline here Cat, is basically what Beestie has said. If you say something, the worst possible outcome is he says no, you move, nurse the heartache, and get on with your life. If you don't say something, you will never know "what could have been" and it will haunt you the rest of your days.

Been there, done that. Don't make that mistake.

"Some mistakes were built to last" ~ George Michael