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Originally Posted by Aliantha

I know we've all moaned about cancer before, but it just really sucks for my friend.

We don't moan about cancer, Ali.
And you are not moaning now.
We say FUCK CANCER and struggle to deal with the fuckety-fuck it doles out. As you are doing.
Not a criticism, just shoring you up here.

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Anyway, I just feel so abjectly useless. I know it's not about me, but he is the last person who deserves this. He's the sort of person who just helps people. I kid you not, he tried to help out a mate who had a broken leg by mowing his grass for him half way through his last round of radiation. That's the kind of person he is. Selfless to a fault. Anyway, I wish I had a magic wand. All I have is fucking cake.

You are not useless, except in the way all of us are useless in the face of cancer.
If you can acknowledge it to the sufferer you're miles ahead of useless.

Which is all coming the long way round to saying don't beat yourself up. And I really feel for you.
These days it seems like I'm holding my breath just waiting for the next person I know to be diagnosed.
I would almost rather it was me so I could get on with dying rather than living in guilt.
Note "almost".