When do you know it's over?

[be-bop]

How do you know it’s over?

It’s a question I think everyone in a relationship has asked him/herself at one time, no doubt in a moment of uncertainty in the relationship or after a fight or when something major has happened.
So what do you say when none of the above has happened, there’s just the crawling, nagging thought that eats away in the back of your mind and your daydreams are full of looking elsewhere to a life on your own, and the thought of being on your own seems not so scary after all and seems preferable to the day in day out grind of a marriage where love and tenderness has been replaced with something akin to acceptance and annoyance at each other.

How do you cope with just the practical details of separation, who gets what, where do you live, how can you afford somewhere, then there’s the fallout with Sons Daughters other family members who will undoubtedly take sides after all it only human nature, and when the dust settles what then?

Is it better to be Man up and get out or suck it up and remain unhappy rather that cause chaos in a family/families.
I’m asking you out there because the one I should be talking to does not seem to want the questions to be asked or have the discussion that‘s needed, whether she seems to be of the same mindset I don’t know, but communication for the last couple of years has not been at the forefront of the relationship..........................

That was what I wrote to myself a couple of months ago, however as things go and how shit happens it is now worse, after the biggest mother fucking row of all time we are no longer at the ignoring stage and I feel now for our sanities state the time has now come to part, still 28 years is a good innings I suppose

Do I need the grief or the effort involved to try and make it better and try and right the wrongs or accept the relationship has run it’s course any advice would be cool

thanks