How do you deal

[DanaC]

You could have got it all right, and them still have been traumatised by childhood. You could have got it all wrong and them turn out well-balanced and happy.

My mum used to wrap herself up in guilt that somehow, maybe because she didn't breastfeed with me (that was touted as the reason for half a dozen illnesses during the 80s and 90s) she was ultimately responsible for me having horrendous eczema.

Like Limes said: you did what you could, made the best decisions you could make, with the resources at your disposal and within your capacity at the time.