Judging people (long)

[staceyv]

if you're in a relationship, how would you even get to know a person and be able to rate them romantically, without spending time talking with them and thinking of them sexually? i'm married and i can't think of anyone i could rate, because i don't even look at other men like that. if you're rating other people in competition with your partner, you are being mentally unfaithful, and of course you'll rate others higher, because you know your partner's flaws, but you would do yourself a huge favor if you a) decided if you want to be with your partner or not and b) if yes, stop rating other people like that, problem solved.