Most & Least Favorite Ways to Cope

[OnyxCougar]

As a person who got emotionally and physically abused for around 2 years, and not aware of the specifics of your situation, let me give you this kernel of Onyx Wisdom:

No one will allow themselves to be helped if they don't really want it.

No matter what you do, how much you beg, plead or threaten, it won't happen until she wants to get of where she is.

I call it "I have had enough."

I stayed with that freak until "I" had had "enough" of his bullshit. At that point, I was ready for help. Up until that point, nothing you could have said or done would have convinced me to even consider leaving. Even tho I was getting cut on, even tho I was getting verbally beat down, even tho he was dislocating joints as a teaching tool. Didn't matter. Until I had enough.

So in the meantime, be there for the kids like it sounds like you're doing, and hope she gets enough soon enough to enjoy her kids, too.