Uh oh, scared him off??

"we've spent a bit of time together now and I need to get things right in my head. I can handle whatever this is, holiday fling or fuck buddy etc....so what do you see this as?"

he replied with "what the? how am I supposed to answer that?"

I'm happy for you, but it did seem a bit like self sabotage there.
Ask yourself this... what would be a rational answer to that question?
Seriously, if you were asked that... what would you have said in the same situation, objectively?
LOL, I would have loved to have seen your face if he had said "Wedding bells next week!"
See, I'm a smart-ass and cannot help it... I would have... took a while until I found one...