Another Fight

[Sundae]

Originally Posted by Ibram

Coming from a bi 15-year-old, I say that nobody can tell me or anyone else what my or their sexuality is or isn't. You can think what you want, but I know I like the boy-folk and the girl-folk.

It is honestly the voice of experience (i.e. age) talking. There is a big difference between being interested in people of the same sex and having a satisfying long term relationship with them.

I thought I was bisexual when I was at school because I was turned on by women as well as men. I went to a gay club in my late teens and had to walk out - not because it was too full-on for me, but because I was so turned on by seeing women kiss eachother I didn't know where to look.

But I realised over the years that I would never go beyond isolated physical experience with a woman - I still find some women a turn-on, but I don't want a girlfriend.

I don't think anyone here is trying to tell anyone else that they don't know how they feel. It's just that openly labelling yourself is rarely necessary - it comes up in conversation when it's relevant.

So my answer to Renn is don't let anyone pressure you into something you're not ready for. If you're not comfortable wearing your personal feelings like a badge then that's your choice. Just try & keep the lies to a minimum. If you two do end up making a life together your friends and family won't appreciate the previous deceit.