Religion and relationships

[Iggy]

I have this same problem with my boyfriend, only I am the christian and he is agnostic. We have had many discussions about religion, and usually I end up frustrated because I can't seem to find the words to discuss what I believe. Part of the problem is that I was raised a christian, I didn't really decide to be it. I just always believed because my family believed so there is still much I need to learn about it to be really sure that it is what I believe.

I usually agree with most christians, but I have issues with some of what is believed in the faith. So maybe I am not actually christian but that is the closest to what I do believe. It is so confusing that I don't know how to tell him about it. He wants definitive explainations why christians believe certain things, and I can't give him that. I just know that is what I was taught. That is the major reason I don't discount our differences. If I don't really know why I believe what I believe, then how can I tell him he should believe the same too?

I know this makes me seem really fake and superficial and I am trying to remedy that. But I find it hard to believe that everyone who isn't Christian will go to hell. I just don't know what to think sometimes. I just need time and a better education into my religion, and then I will know what I believe.

So obviously I can't help you out... I am just as confused. Only I know I want to marry my boyfriend. I just hope that my beliefs won't hurt us in the long run.