To vacation or not to vacation?

[John Adams]

Here is the problem and I need some opinions.

I have not had a “real” vacation in over seven years. A real vacation to me is getting off into the middle of nowhere with my MTB, Backpack and canoe for a couple of weeks. I would usually do a short 80 to 100 mile hike with other days lounging around the campsite with little jaunts on the lake and short MTB rides. Schedule dictated by how I felt that day. Since my kids were born I have not gone on that type of trip. We go away each year to visit my wife’s family (she is from another country) but it isn’t what I would call a vacation. I just had major surgery a few months ago and was dealing with the possibility that I could be dead by now (without it I would be dead). It’s always nice when the doctor tells you to make sure your will is up to date and that you have a durable power of attorney and living will. I am really starting to feel burned out at this point and almost desperate to get away.

The real problem here is if I go away by myself the kids will miss me and I will miss them. I really enjoy being with my kids and playing with them. I know my wife would have no problem if I tell her I need to go away for a few days she would probably even encourage it since she knows how much I enjoy my trips. I just feel so guilty going away without the kids. Am I being self centered if I take off? What type of message am I sending to my kids if I take off for a few days. Then of course there is the whole financial part of the trip. Most of my gear needs to be replaced. I do make a good income but my wife is a stay at home mom and I always feel guilty when I spend money on myself. Oddly I have no problem spending money on the wife and kids and probably spoil them a bit.

So anyway, what do you think – To vacation or not to vacation?