What is a relationship?

[elf]

Originally Posted by lumberjim

... Your relationship ( and it IS a relationship) is just like anyone else's. just as you are exactly as unique as everyone else. every relationship has its own set of rules (and you DO have rules). What you are describing is a committed relationship with a partner with the cavat that you willl tolerate casual sex or flirting on the side as long as the core of your relationship remains intact.

Here here.

see also elf's gig.

Originally Posted by lumberjim

.... Personally I think that just the way you worded that lends to the fact that you DO have a problem with it and have simply resigned yourself to it. Had you said that it doesn;t bother you because sex is just sex, and you know he'll be careful not to catch anything, and it kind of turns you on to see him flirt ...or whatever.....i might buy it. but you didn't.

I think you're missing the balance of it. If Cat can get through the jealousy issues no worse for wear, then it works the other way around too. So she's free, too, and has every right to expect him to give her that much.

As far as I can see, the relationship Cat's talking about offers a comfortable place to be. For the here and now, it works. But I agree. It is a relationship, and there are rules no matter how vague they may be. There's something that you or he could do (breaking a trust would be the most obvious) that would end the relationship, and that makes it rules. Makes sense?