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Old 03-08-2005, 09:31 AM   #22
Catwoman
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*sigh*

Ok - I'm trying to break down people's perceptions of relationships. I don't label my relationship with this person not because of some outdated 60s hippy shit, but because there are no rules. I don't call it a relationship but:

- we live together
- we sleep together
- we cuddle a lot
- we have sex
- we do everything together
- we know each other's parents
- I'm his plus one
- most people think we are boyfriend and girlfriend
- we love being with each other

I could go on. To most people, this is a relationship. Just if you call it that (and ok I don't just mean a word, I mean accepting it into your consciousness as a relationship) you lose your freedom. I don't care who you are or how long you've been married, you WILL at some point fancy someone else. The only difference is I have the freedom to pursue it, if I wish. It's like all the good points of a relationship without the holding-back or tieing-down.

I met a man the other night who had been married 20 years or so, and he wanted to travel, to explore, but 'she'd kill me if she found out' and 'she'd never let me'. He was living his life for his wife. And this happens all the time, often to lesser extent on the surface, but not really. You think you own someone. The fat bird/affairs thing was just an example. Just the same as I wouldn't stop him going to China. Just like he wouldn't stop me doing anything I want. I have the warmth, comfort, 'love' if you want to call it that and all the rest without compromising my self in any way.

I still don;t think I've explained this well. I hope someone picks it up.
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