The Double-Standard Rant

[limey]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Ok...here's how we handle the clothes on the floor issue.

Hubby left clothes lying around the floor before he knew me.

Clothes lying on the floor is no issue for him, but it pisses me off.

Should he have to pick up his clothes just to please me when for himself it doesn't matter?

Mostly he doesn't. He just leaves them in a pile next to his side of the bed. Now and then he surprises me by putting all his clothes away and that's always nice and he does it for my benefit not his.

My thoughts on this: Why should he have to change the way he's always been just for my benefit? Do they harm me on the floor? Nope. Does he leave them all over the house? Nope, just next to his bed. Is it nice when he does decide to clean them up? You bet it is. Do I expect it to ever be done? Not on my life.

I don't expect him to be perfect or to read my mind. If one of us is unhappy with something we say so and we never EVER argue about something that was an issue the last time we had an argument. To me, that's a lot healthier than hanging onto other shit from the past and using it as ammo next time you get pissed off with one another.

Do I think our relationship is perfect? Not for anyone else, but for us it is.

n.b. Perfect doesn't mean that we don't have issues, just that the way we work them out works perfectly for us, and that's what being in a relationship is all about as far as I'm concerned. If you expect it to be all peaches and cream you should also expect it to end right about the time the endorphins stop floating around and it's time to seriously consider where things are going.

I could have written this post !