Discussing Clodfobble's book

[monster]

OK I had to stop reading to comment. And I didn't want to hijack the original thread. But Clod hit on a topic of particular interest to me.

Ms Fobble talks about looking at eyes when conversing with people. (I hate that too, especially if their eyes are blue). But.... here's what I wanted to say...... whatever people look at, it isn't both eyes. It can't be.

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

one of the counsellors had a condition known as heterochromia iridium. This meant that one of his eyes was actually two different colors, bright blue and brown in a striking asymmetrical pattern. After two months of interacting with this counsellor on a daily basis, I learned about his unusual eye only when another camper referred to it.

My daughter has one dark brown eye and one pale green eye. it's very unusual for people to notice immediately. Many know her for years and only find out when someone tells them. Then they are horribly embarrassed. Or amazed. Or both. But I can assure you it's he norm in our experience. We still await the Michigan Women's Club Water Polo Team noticing. It's been six months of up-close-and-personal contact so far.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Girls have eyes?

[Clodfobble]

The thing that annoys me is the assertion that you can't possibly pick up emotional content without looking at the eyes. What crap. Tone of voice says a million times more than a few eye muscles ever will, and for that matter there are more subtle muscle movements possible around the mouth than there are around the eyes.

I think eye contact is for narcissists, only to make sure they're looking at you.

[DanaC]

I find eye contact an awkward thing. I often have to remind myself tomake eye contact with people, because I forget.

[Spexxvet]

Originally Posted by monster

..... whatever people look at, it isn't both eyes. It can't be.

Yeah ... I'm a left eye looker. When I realize I'm looking at the left eye of someone with no vision in that eye, I look at their right eye, and it's very uncomfortable.

Originally Posted by monster

My daughter has one dark brown eye and one pale green eye. it's very unusual for people to notice immediately. Many know her for years and only find out when someone tells them. Then they are horribly embarrassed. Or amazed. Or both. But I can assure you it's he norm in our experience. We still await the Michigan Women's Club Water Polo Team noticing. It's been six months of up-close-and-personal contact so far.

I believe you, but I'm amazed that people are so unobservant.

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

I think eye contact is for narcissists, only to make sure they're looking at you.

I disagree. I believe that making eye contact is showing respect for someone.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Bah, eye contact is for dogs and servants. You've been brainwashed into being distracted from the crosshairs.

[Gravdigr]

I watch peoples' mouths when they talk. I glance at the eyes, sure, but, mainly it's the mouth.

I think it's because I've worked in loud environments so much. Chainsaws/factories/foundries/loud music...

[footfootfoot]

Originally Posted by Gravdigr

I watch peoples' mouths when they talk. I glance at the eyes, sure, but, mainly it's the mouth.

I think it's because I've worked in loud environments so much. Chainsaws/factories/foundries/loud music...

What?


I usually go back and forth between them unless they have a wandering eye, then I look at the one looking at me, I figure the other eye is probably high on drugs and looking at the patterns, man.

I wonder if there is a correlation between your dominant eye and the eye of the person you look into.

[DanaC]

For me I kind of stop actively looking at the other person, my eyeline drops slightly down and to the right as I listen, then flicks back to their eyes for a few seconds, then drops away again. I think it's difficult to think consciously about what I do unconsciously, or less consciously. Eye contact is often conscious, I deliberately flick my eyes to theirs so they know I am listening, or because the content of what they or I am saying seems to demand that, but not always, some of it is automatic I think.

[lumberjim]

I look at their tits

[sexobon]

In Spec. Ops., operators are trained to not make eye contact during transient encounters. Studies have shown that making eye contact significantly increases the chance of someone remembering having seen your face before and placing it. Being recognized can be a disadvantage later when one is trying to keep a low profile or blend into a crowd.

This kind of stuff keeps unit psychologists gainfully employed.

[Spexxvet]

Originally Posted by lumberjim

I look at their tits

Even if he doesn't have big ones?

[Spexxvet]

interesting, if superficial, piece

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...ntact-revealed

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by Spexxvet

Even if he doesn't have big ones?

Of course, nipples are the most important feature, big boobs just get them closer.

[glatt]

The scar on Andrew's leg. I read that last night.

8 inches of tissue?! Am I remembering that correctly? 8 inches?

I'm impressed.