Jea-lousy

Trilby · 09-29-2006, 02:38 PM

What do you think of people who tell you things to MAKE you jealous and then, when you're jealous, they say, "Oh, well. Try not to think about it..."-???

Like this: "Oh, here's a pic of me and this young woman who helps my mom out around the house. Mom tries to fix me up with her!" and you are his girlfriend? I mean, you THOUGHT you were his girlfriend? And he's done shite like this before? Do I overreact? Or, is he jerking me around?

mrnoodle · 09-29-2006, 03:00 PM

1) he's insecure
2) he's a dick
3) he's testing the waters for a 3-way

Take your pick. But it's probably not good. imo.

Flint · 09-29-2006, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by mrnoodle

3) he's testing the waters for a 3-way

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Originally Posted by Peter "Family Guy" Griffin

"Jokingly at first, but then I was gonna gauge your reaction and if you were cool with it, we would go from there."

glatt · 09-29-2006, 03:09 PM

He's probably a little insecure with some amount of cluelessness thrown in. But comes off looking like a jerk. You should let him know you didn't appreciate it, but don't blow it up into a big thing.

Flint · 09-29-2006, 03:13 PM

Trying to puff up his desirability with the "competition" factor, IE touting his "other options" . . . ? (textbook insecurity)

Trilby · 09-29-2006, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Flint

Trying to puff up his desirability with the "competition" factor, IE touting his "other options" . . . ?

See, I think that is a large part of it. He already KNOWS I adore him. Plus, I think he's being 30% insecure jerk. maybe 50% insecure jerk. My gut says so. but, like i said, I adore him! why does he DO this? what's that song...carly simon: Why'd you tell me this? Were you lookin for my reaction...that one.

Elspode · 09-29-2006, 03:33 PM

Is this the Gooey Nerd of Love, here? If so, the fact your yourself identify him as a nerd may have a lot to do with this. Nerds typically don't have much experience with dealing with women who aren't their mothers.

He could just be hopelessly, but attractively, inept.

DucksNuts · 10-02-2006, 08:15 PM

In my (limited) experience, some people use jealousy as a gauge of how much you care for them.

Havent you ever known a girl that uses every trick in the book to try and make her SO jealous, then gets all pissy when that person doesnt react at all?

Sounds like he's trying to convince you that he's alot more desirable than he thinks?? He doesnt get that you dont need convincing

footfootfoot · 10-02-2006, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Brianna

What do you think of people who tell you things to MAKE you jealous ...

I stopped dating them in high school.

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Originally Posted by Brianna

... He already KNOWS I adore him...but, like i said, I adore him! why does he DO this?

WRONG QUESTION. Why do YOU do this?

(a little self esteem goes a long way)

morethanpretty · 10-03-2006, 12:03 AM

Hmmm this is a hard one for me, I accidently make my boyfriend jealous all the time. I have a lot of guy friends. Perhaps it was an accident for him too...
I mention guys who hit on me, and the different things my guys say to me, to my boyfriend and its not to make him jealous or show that I have other options...I'm just telling him about my day, life, ect. There is really no reason to get jealous anyway, you either trust him around the opposite sex and if you don't you drop him. BTW he knows that the most wonderful thing anyone has ever said to me, after his "I love you", was when my HS friend Kyle told me,"You look gorgeous when you cry" I had had a bad day and that cheered me up.

lizzi · 10-19-2006, 12:57 AM

Tell him to stop fooling around. You are his gf, he should not do that to you. Playing around with your feelings and all.

Rock Steady · 10-19-2006, 01:24 AM

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Originally Posted by morethanpretty

Hmmm this is a hard one for me, I accidently make my boyfriend jealous all the time. I have a lot of guy friends. Perhaps it was an accident for him too...
I mention guys who hit on me, and the different things my guys say to me, to my boyfriend and its not to make him jealous or show that I have other options...I'm just telling him about my day, life, ect....

I have to disagree with you here, you can talk about these things differently. My wife and I have opposite-gender friends that we each go out with to events, lunch, etc. We can talk about it while skipping over details that would make the other uncomfortable, or presenting things in a non-threatening way.

10-19-2006, 01:41 AM

As usual , the mad American jargon chills my bones .

Brianna , I tend not to mix with servant girls who help around the house .

And therefore I would never have a photo of a servant girl in my hand .

Trilby · 10-19-2006, 06:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Buddug

As usual , the mad American jargon chills my bones .

Brianna , I tend not to mix with servant girls who help around the house .

And therefore I would never have a photo of a servant girl in my hand .

Mr. Darcy!? Is that you!?

Stormieweather · 10-19-2006, 10:33 AM

You ladies need a boyfriend who gets a kick out of it when guys flirt with you :p . You also need to trust the person you are involved with, or you probably shouldn't be with them.

If I ever suspect that my boyfriend is being less than honest about his ladyfriends or that he is cheating, I will walk away. Someone like that is not worth my time and energy.

On the other hand, it does help a great deal to hear comments like, 'oh she doesn't hold a candle to YOU, my love' rather than 'man she's hawt, I could see myself doing the horizontal tango with her'. Remarks like the latter are intended to keep you off balance and insecure. I have no use for someone who plays with my emotions like that.

Stormie

09-29-2006, 02:38 PM	#1
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Jea-lousy What do you think of people who tell you things to MAKE you jealous and then, when you're jealous, they say, "Oh, well. Try not to think about it..."-??? Like this: "Oh, here's a pic of me and this young woman who helps my mom out around the house. Mom tries to fix me up with her!" and you are his girlfriend? I mean, you THOUGHT you were his girlfriend? And he's done shite like this before? Do I overreact? Or, is he jerking me around?

09-29-2006, 03:00 PM	#2
mrnoodle bent Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: under the weather Posts: 2,656	1) he's insecure 2) he's a dick 3) he's testing the waters for a 3-way Take your pick. But it's probably not good. imo. __________________ Sìn a nall na cuaranan sin. -- Cha mhór is fheairrde thu iad, tha iad coltach ri cat air a dhathadh

09-29-2006, 03:13 PM	#5
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	Trying to puff up his desirability with the "competition" factor, IE touting his "other options" . . . ? (textbook insecurity) __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio**

09-29-2006, 03:33 PM	#7
Elspode When Do I Get Virtual Unreality? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Raytown, Missouri Posts: 12,719	Is this the Gooey Nerd of Love, here? If so, the fact your yourself identify him as a nerd may have a lot to do with this. Nerds typically don't have much experience with dealing with women who aren't their mothers. He could just be hopelessly, but attractively, inept. __________________ "To those of you who are wearing ties, I think my dad would appreciate it if you took them off." - Robert Moog

10-03-2006, 12:03 AM	#10
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	Hmmm this is a hard one for me, I accidently make my boyfriend jealous all the time. I have a lot of guy friends. Perhaps it was an accident for him too... I mention guys who hit on me, and the different things my guys say to me, to my boyfriend and its not to make him jealous or show that I have other options...I'm just telling him about my day, life, ect. There is really no reason to get jealous anyway, you either trust him around the opposite sex and if you don't you drop him. BTW he knows that the most wonderful thing anyone has ever said to me, after his "I love you", was when my HS friend Kyle told me,"You look gorgeous when you cry" I had had a bad day and that cheered me up. __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

09-29-2006, 03:09 PM	#4
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	He's probably a little insecure with some amount of cluelessness thrown in. But comes off looking like a jerk. You should let him know you didn't appreciate it, but don't blow it up into a big thing.

10-02-2006, 08:15 PM	#8
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	In my (limited) experience, some people use jealousy as a gauge of how much you care for them. Havent you ever known a girl that uses every trick in the book to try and make her SO jealous, then gets all pissy when that person doesnt react at all? Sounds like he's trying to convince you that he's alot more desirable than he thinks?? He doesnt get that you dont need convincing

10-19-2006, 12:57 AM	#11
lizzi Neophyte-in-training Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3	Tell him to stop fooling around. You are his gf, he should not do that to you. Playing around with your feelings and all. __________________ It's perseverance that's the key. It's persevering for long enough to achieve your potential..

10-19-2006, 01:41 AM	#13
Buddug Guest Posts: n/a	As usual , the mad American jargon chills my bones . Brianna , I tend not to mix with servant girls who help around the house . And therefore I would never have a photo of a servant girl in my hand .

10-19-2006, 10:33 AM	#15
Stormieweather Wearing her bitch boots Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Floriduh Posts: 1,181	You ladies need a boyfriend who gets a kick out of it when guys flirt with you :p . You also need to trust the person you are involved with, or you probably shouldn't be with them. If I ever suspect that my boyfriend is being less than honest about his ladyfriends or that he is cheating, I will walk away. Someone like that is not worth my time and energy. On the other hand, it does help a great deal to hear comments like, 'oh she doesn't hold a candle to YOU, my love' rather than 'man she's hawt, I could see myself doing the horizontal tango with her'. Remarks like the latter are intended to keep you off balance and insecure. I have no use for someone who plays with my emotions like that. Stormie __________________ "First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." - Mahatma Gandhi

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