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05-12-2008, 09:23 PM | #1 |
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Why People Hate You...
Have you ever wondered why someone----oh, let's just say a classmate; a much younger (20?) classmate---- might hate your guts even though you've never said or done or even given the stink eye to her?
Example #1) Asked by the prof how long such and such assignment would take we all answered different things. I said, "about two hours," and this chick goes, (complete with nasty sneer) "oh, you've GOT to be kidding! it would take me 45 min. tops!" I just looked at her kindly and said, "well, I'm slow." Example #2) When asked if we cared to have class outdoors on a pretty day we were polled and I said, "Oh, either way is fine with me," and she piped up in a loud (she's always loud) voice, and with malice, said, "don't be such a WOMAN!" there are more examples but the hell with them. What I don't understand is why this young woman hates me when she doesn't even know me at all. I do know she has a crush on the prof. I do not. I do know whe refuses to read her stuff in class---this is a creative writing class and she just WON'T read her stuff---too good or deep for us, i guess. My question is this: what should I do? she really did make me kind of sad today as she yelled at me (again. and I wasn't even addressing her) and I wondered: what have I DONE? I am trying very, very hard to extend goodness, serenity, calm and compassion (I'm doing twice daily meditation tapes) and I am eating well and looking much better---all in all, feeling happy to have survived this year. So. The negativity thrown willy nilly at me with no basis bothers me. Shall I completely ignore her? Squeeze myself down into a small marble and not share in class b/c she is a bully? (highly unlikely of me) or what?
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05-12-2008, 09:29 PM | #2 |
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I'd step on her. She's informing you she's a bitch cockroach. Oh, and she can't write.
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05-12-2008, 09:38 PM | #3 |
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What goes around comes around. She'll get hers one day just like everyone else.
It's not going to make any difference to her if you do or don't participate, so I'd suggest not worrying about how someone with an irrational dislike treats you. I know I wouldn't. Also, younger people are still finding their way in the world. I encountered very similar situations when I was a 30 something university student. I think most mature age students do. The younger kids feel threatened or that they know better than you how the world should work. Remember, you're encroaching on their territory. The domain of the young and beautiful. How dare you.
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05-16-2008, 10:09 AM | #4 | |
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05-17-2008, 03:34 PM | #5 |
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'Cause she's jealous...
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05-12-2008, 09:38 PM | #6 |
Come on, cat.
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That's awful Brianna. I know exactly what you mean, there is a swimming instructor at my gym that hates my guts and I have no idea why. I never had any reason to notice her at all until she started giving me the stink eye and then intentionally smashing into me whenever we were in the same pool at the same time. I don't know what to do about her either....
Girls can be so mean.
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05-15-2008, 12:16 PM | #7 |
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05-12-2008, 09:57 PM | #9 |
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Not worth you time Bri ,
Your in a WHOLE different League , shes just jeullus !!!
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05-12-2008, 10:06 PM | #10 |
To shreds, you say?
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05-12-2008, 10:11 PM | #11 |
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confront her calmly and ask her for her opinion on how you should handle the situation. If she doesn't back pedal and apologize, kick her in the cunt.
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05-12-2008, 10:38 PM | #12 |
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Maybe she has the impression you're flirting with the object of her affection. Maybe you are and don't even know it?
Just laugh at her, and say, "Kids say the darnedest things". Kicking her in the cunt is optional.
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05-12-2008, 10:55 PM | #13 |
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LJ always amazes me with his subtle philosophy.
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05-12-2008, 10:59 PM | #14 |
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holy crap, LJ, that's ... fantastic.
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