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Old 09-01-2012, 12:34 AM   #1
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Thank god not my kid

this is so wtf for me I have to share. Some back story: about five years ago my neighbor's 19 0r 20 y.o. daughter went on a two week trip to West Bumfuck, Egypt.(not actually Egypt, but close enough) She decided she liked it there and she stayed and met a guy and they got married over there. She came back to the states for visa reasons before she got married, and hung out at her mom's house rent free, mooching and half assedly sort of worked or looked for sort of work and wouldn't talk about her fiance or anything about her life in West BF. Fine Whatever, we weren't prying, we were just being polite.

So before the wedding (that took place in West BF- check it- her parents weren't even invited, not that they had the plane fare, but whatever) she throws herself a bridal shower inviting everyone she could think of, 900 of her closest friends, but none were invited to the wedding which was an ocean away. Ceremony here in the states? No. Just the bridal shower where she requested $ from her guests. I think there was even a suggested donation, I might be imagining it.

So she goes back to West BF, gets married, lives there until she runs out of $ comes home, again staying rent free at mom's after a year she scrapes up enough $ to fetch her husband. For the past year they've been mooching off mom, not doing anything at all to contribute to the house. I get an earfull from mom. Anyway, daughter, now 25, tells me she quit her job in a huff because her boss wasn't paying her enough. (Overpaying her, if you ask me, but whatever.) She hands me this flyer yesterday.
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Old 09-01-2012, 04:47 AM   #2
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Damn.
I forgot.
I meant to invite you all to my happy event!

Quote:
To everyone I know

May whatever God you believe in shower blessings on you.
I can't, I'm too poor.
But God loves me too and wants you to show it with money.

I'm back at work next week, and will be wearing out clothes and shoe-leather as I do.
And I have a cat that does need feeding. Every day!
Every penny you donate will go to food, or drink, or clothes or general living expenses.

God wants me to carry on living (suicide being a sin) so in His name please help.

Lovely, lovely, lovely.
Love, Me.

PS I'll take some photos of food if you send me extra money.
xxx
I'm going to put these through all the neighbours' doors.
I think that's reasonable.
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Old 09-01-2012, 10:20 AM   #3
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Shoot, she learned that technique somewhere.

Are most 20 somethings narcissistic jerks nowadays?
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Old 09-01-2012, 10:22 AM   #4
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Only if they're on your lawn.
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Old 09-01-2012, 10:27 AM   #5
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Or living in your basement.

I was brought up to be ashamed of myself if I ever asked for anything. But Im sure I was still a self-centered pain-in-the-ass just the same,
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Old 09-01-2012, 04:53 PM   #6
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If your neighbor did a better job making her daughter miserable, chica would have moved out a long time ago...
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Old 09-01-2012, 05:13 PM   #7
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You'd be amazed at what they are willing to tolerate. My 22yr old stepson is still living here even though I make it as inhospitable as I can rules-wise.
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Old 09-01-2012, 06:09 PM   #8
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Neighbor lady is terrified of her daughter.
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Old 09-01-2012, 06:58 PM   #9
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Wonder if the kid has any idea how tacky they are.
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Old 09-01-2012, 07:06 PM   #10
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She has absolutely no clue. The really sad thing is that she thinks this is clever on her part or reasonable behavior in any case. She has an unnaturally developed sense of entitlement and self importance.

It's really embarrassing. Too bad we'll be out of town that weekend, I'm curious to see who shows up and with what.
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Old 09-01-2012, 09:03 PM   #11
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I refer you all to Bruce's sig line.

ETA: err, back when it was that one about handing kids self-esteem on a platter and this backfiring, not the new one with the Doors lyric.
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Old 09-02-2012, 05:17 AM   #12
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Meh, people with a sense of entitlement have been around for as long as there have been people. Jane Austen has them in spades.
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Old 09-02-2012, 09:10 AM   #13
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I would bring her the "most important thing - JOY!"

I'd bake her a cookie with JOY written on in icing and smile and say, "Here's to JOY!"
and then give her a big smooch and walk away whistling.
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Old 09-02-2012, 12:41 PM   #14
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That gives me a great idea. I'll buy a bottle of Joy dish detergent and wrap it in very fancy wrap. And give it to her. Another somewhat sad thing is that her husband is a very nice guy and probably has no idea what a tool he married. (Cultural differences)
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Old 09-03-2012, 08:35 PM   #15
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The hubby doesn't know he's a douche,(in our culture) so no chance of him reigning in the princess's worst excesses.
Ayn Rand totally approves of this precious child.
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