Peace of Mind

freshnesschronic · 04-05-2007, 10:30 PM

"let me tell you something jc, you will never know what girls want because they themselves do not know. you dont NEED to solve their puzzles, or interpret signals, what you need is a girl who doesn't play games, a girl who will honestly tell you how she feels,and most importantly a girl who will help you and allow you to make her happy. if you do find this girl, or maybe you already have, then congratulations...otherwise, don't blame yourself man, people will only be as happy as they allow themselves to be, regardless of what others do for them...any type of relationship takes work, but remember that its a give-and-take"
-AD

This is a brilliant thought from one of my friends, let's call him AD. It's really helping me get through these hard times that I have made numerous posts on "Relationships" about. I'm only 19. Each day I get less and less attatched and I feel more and more excited for next year when I get a house with 4 of my other friends and we host parties and the girls come to ME! Hahaha, ok that made me seem like a douchebag I know but seriously. I'll get to meet new people, be more FREE, instead of restricting my thinking. This year, my freshman year I sacrificed, thinking she'd come join me next year. Didn't plant any seeds with any "prospects." Since I'm already accepting that me and my girl probably won't work out in the end. We think differently, about education, values, and relationships it seems. Love truly isn't enough. I've found complicating factors can make a relationship so unhealthy that sometimes love just can't prevail. She probably won't go to U of I anyway. And we both know we can't do the long distance relationship much longer. For example, she hasn't called me all day, and it's 10:27 PM right now. If I called her she'd just snap and say "I was gonna call you tonite, oh my GOD!" But right now I'm like whatever. I got my own stuff to do, can't wait for her any longer sometimes. I need to startint living my life.

I just know that whatever relationship I get into next, I will NEVER give out my love so easily and will NOT rush things the way I did with her.
I think I've searched and have found that piece of mind, that gives me, well, peace of mind.

zippyt · 04-05-2007, 10:46 PM

Wise words from AD ,
I give new groomes a little talk about relationships , it goes like this ,
" a good relationship is a Verry simple equation ,
1+1=1 ,
as in 1 indivigual + 1 indivigual = 1 couple , it is give and take on BOTH sides ,
some times its best for you to say " Yes Dear " and some times its her turn ,
and be Adults about it ,
hell if you are old enough to get married then you are old enough to try and make it work ,
Marrage is NOT a desposible thing , it is a LASTING commitment ,
good AND bad , it will just make your bond stronger!! "

DanaC · 04-06-2007, 05:48 AM

Quote:

Each day I get less and less attatched and I feel more and more excited for next year when I get a house with 4 of my other friends and we host parties and the girls come to ME! Hahaha, ok that made me seem like a douchebag I know but seriously.

*chuckles* no it doesn't. It makes you sound young .....that's cool, young is what you are. I think you made more sense in this post than practically any other you've made. I don't know anything about your girlfriend, and I know precious little about you, so I may be speaking out of turn, but here goes. Everything you've posted recently has sounded like you are in the middle of a crisis. You seem to be hanging on constantly for reassurances that aren't forthcoming and then getting yourself wound up and angry when they don't. You're 19 years old, living away from home and studying at university. This could be the happiest time for you, a chance to experiment with life (and people) and be truly free. Life ties you down soon enough m'dear, this is your chance for real freedom, enjoy it whilst it's yours to enjoy.

That's just my tupp'en'orth, if I am out of line, I apologise.

freshnesschronic · 04-06-2007, 10:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DanaC

Life ties you down soon enough m'dear, this is your chance for real freedom, enjoy it whilst it's yours to enjoy.

That's just my tupp'en'orth, if I am out of line, I apologise.

No thanks very much for your comment. I just don't know what tupp'en'orth means.

DanaC · 04-06-2007, 10:39 AM

*grins* it means 'two pennies worth'

piercehawkeye45 · 04-06-2007, 03:06 PM

Damn Brits...

Dana brought up a really good point though. You just need to relax and not let everything stress you out, it is much easier that way to enjoy yourself.

BigV · 04-06-2007, 05:33 PM

been there done that...

Quote:

Originally Posted by BigV

Slippin' Into Darkness, War; Ain't No Sunshine, Bill Withers; I Gotta Move Out of This Neighborhood/Nobody Loves Me, BB King; Life Without You, Wall of Denial, Crossfire, Stevie Ray Vaughn; That's Why I'm Cryin', Koko Taylor. The playlist continues...

Further down are Lean On Me, Bill Withers; A Change is Gonna Do Me Good, Etta James; You Can't Judge A Book By It's Cover, Willie Dixon; Laugh Out Loud, Robert Cray; At Last, Etta James. There's a flow, get it?

elSicomoro · 04-06-2007, 05:38 PM

You know, now that I finally found someone that will put up with my shit...the relationship just sorta happened. We had already known each other for 7 years and spent about a month just getting to know each other better before things ramped up. I really believe it was meant to happen that way...I just went with the flow and the flow took me to the right spot.

BigV · 04-06-2007, 05:39 PM

Artist: Bill Withers Lyrics
Song: Ain't No Sunshine Lyrics
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
It's not warm when she's away
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
And she always gone too long anytime she goes away

Wonder this time where she's gone
Wonder if she's gone to stay
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
And this house just ain't no home
Anytime she goes away

And I know, I know, I know, I know
I know, I know, I know, I know
I know, I know, I know, I know
I know, I know, I know, I know
I know, I know, I know, I know
I know, I know, I know, I know
I know, I know

Hey I'll leave the young thing alone
But ain't no sunshine when she's gone
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
Only darkness everyday

Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
And this house just ain't no home
Anytime she goes away
Anytime she goes away
Anytime she goes away
Anytime she goes away

*****************************************

Artist: Bill Withers Lyrics
Song: Use Me Lyrics
My friends feel it's their appointed duty
They keep trying to tell me
All you want to do is use me
Ha, ha, but my answer, ha, ha
Yeah, to all that use me stuff
Is I wanna spread the news
That if it feels this good getting used
Oh, you just keep on using me
Until you use me up

Until you use me up

My brother, sit me right down
And he talked to me, ah-ha
He told me, ah-ha
That I ought not to let you just walk on me
And I'm sure he meant well
Yeah, but when our talk was through
I-I-I said brother, if you only knew
You'd wish that you were in my shoes
You just keep on using me
Until you use me up

Until you use me up

Oh sometimes, it's true you really do abuse me
You get in a crowd of high class people
And then you act real rude to me
But oh baby, baby, baby, baby
When you love me I can't get enough
I-I and I, wanna spread the news
That if it feels this good getting used
Oh, you just keep on using me
Until you use me up

Until you use me up

Talking about you using me
But it all depends on what you do
It ain't too bad the way you're using me
'Cause I sure am using you
To do the things you do
Ah-ha, to do the things you do

BigV · 04-06-2007, 05:40 PM

Artist: Etta James Lyrics
Song: At Last Lyrics
At last
my love has come along
my lonely days over
and life is like a song

Ooh At last
the skies above are blue
well my heart was wrapped up in clover
the night I looked at you

I found a dream
that I could speak to
a dream that I could call my own
I found a thrill
to press my cheek to
a thrill that I have never known

well

You smile
you smile
oh and then the spell was cast
and here we are in heaven
for you are mine at last

I found a dream
that I could speak to
a dream that I
could call my own
I found a thrill
to press my cheek to
a thrill that I have never known

well

You smile
you smile
oh and then the spell was cast
and here we are in heaven
for you are mine at last

ooo yea
you are mine
you are mine
at last
at last
at last
at last

BigV · 04-06-2007, 05:49 PM

Title: Never Can Say Goodbye lyrics
Artist: The Jackson 5

Chorus:
Never can say goodbye
No no no no, I
Never can say goodbye

Even though the pain and heartache
Seems to follow me wherever I go
Though I try and try to hide my feelings
They always seem to show
Then you try to say you're leaving me
And I always have to say no...

Tell me why
Is it so

That I
Never can say goodbye
No no no no, I
Never can say goodbye

Everytime I think I've had enough
I start heading for the door
There's a very strange vibration
piercin me right to the core
It says turn around you fool
You know you love her more and more

Tell me why
(tell me why)
Is it so
(is it so)
Don't wanna let you go!

I can never can say goodbye girl
(never can say goodbye girl)
ou ou baby
(don't wanna let you go girl)
I never can say goodbye
no no no no no no no no no no no

ou! oh!
I never can say goodbye girl
(never can say goodbye girl)
ouuuuuuuu ouuuuuuuuuu
never can say goodbye
no no no no no no no no no no no

(chorus)

I keep thinkin that our problems
Soon are all gonna work out
But there's that same unhappy feeling and there's that anguish, there's that
doubt
It's the same old did ya hang up
Can't do with you or without

Tell me why
Is it so
Don't wanna let you go

[Chorus] (and ad libs)

[Repeat till fade]

TheMercenary · 04-07-2007, 07:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DanaC

This could be the happiest time for you, a chance to experiment with life (and people) and be truly free. Life ties you down soon enough m'dear, this is your chance for real freedom, enjoy it whilst it's yours to enjoy.

Very good advice. Some of the best times you will ever have are in college, work hard at making them so.

freshnesschronic · 04-07-2007, 09:55 PM

Yep. Everything's good between us. For now. Hopefully it will last though.
So all these song lyrics supposed to represent my new outlook on life and relationships, huh?

zippyt · 04-07-2007, 10:02 PM

That was al good BigV UNTILL you quoted the jackson 5 ,
Michael has RUINED any chance of them being good any more !!

freshnesschronic · 04-07-2007, 10:14 PM

Is that a joke?

Michael made the Jackson 5. Forget his personal life, as an artist he is the GREATEST singer ever and an extraordinary songwriter and musician. Arguable the greatest musical artist of the century. Musically, he is pure genius.

Anyone seen that Chapelle's show clip with Dave in the courtroom? "He made Thrilla.

Thrilla."

04-05-2007, 10:30 PM	#1
freshnesschronic Professor Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,555	Peace of Mind "let me tell you something jc, you will never know what girls want because they themselves do not know. you dont NEED to solve their puzzles, or interpret signals, what you need is a girl who doesn't play games, a girl who will honestly tell you how she feels,and most importantly a girl who will help you and allow you to make her happy. if you do find this girl, or maybe you already have, then congratulations...otherwise, don't blame yourself man, people will only be as happy as they allow themselves to be, regardless of what others do for them...any type of relationship takes work, but remember that its a give-and-take" -AD This is a brilliant thought from one of my friends, let's call him AD. It's really helping me get through these hard times that I have made numerous posts on "Relationships" about. I'm only 19. Each day I get less and less attatched and I feel more and more excited for next year when I get a house with 4 of my other friends and we host parties and the girls come to ME! Hahaha, ok that made me seem like a douchebag I know but seriously. I'll get to meet new people, be more FREE, instead of restricting my thinking. This year, my freshman year I sacrificed, thinking she'd come join me next year. Didn't plant any seeds with any "prospects." Since I'm already accepting that me and my girl probably won't work out in the end. We think differently, about education, values, and relationships it seems. Love truly isn't enough. I've found complicating factors can make a relationship so unhealthy that sometimes love just can't prevail. She probably won't go to U of I anyway. And we both know we can't do the long distance relationship much longer. For example, she hasn't called me all day, and it's 10:27 PM right now. If I called her she'd just snap and say "I was gonna call you tonite, oh my GOD!" But right now I'm like whatever. I got my own stuff to do, can't wait for her any longer sometimes. I need to startint living my life. I just know that whatever relationship I get into next, I will NEVER give out my love so easily and will NOT rush things the way I did with her. I think I've searched and have found that piece of mind, that gives me, well, peace of mind.

04-05-2007, 10:46 PM	#2
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Wise words from AD , I give new groomes a little talk about relationships , it goes like this , " a good relationship is a Verry simple equation , 1+1=1 , as in 1 indivigual + 1 indivigual = 1 couple , it is give and take on BOTH sides , some times its best for you to say " Yes Dear " and some times its her turn , and be Adults about it , hell if you are old enough to get married then you are old enough to try and make it work , Marrage is NOT a desposible thing , it is a LASTING commitment , good AND bad , it will just make your bond stronger!! " __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

04-06-2007, 05:39 PM	#9
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Artist: Bill Withers Lyrics Song: Ain't No Sunshine Lyrics Ain't no sunshine when she's gone It's not warm when she's away Ain't no sunshine when she's gone And she always gone too long anytime she goes away Wonder this time where she's gone Wonder if she's gone to stay Ain't no sunshine when she's gone And this house just ain't no home Anytime she goes away And I know, I know, I know, I know I know, I know, I know, I know I know, I know, I know, I know I know, I know, I know, I know I know, I know, I know, I know I know, I know, I know, I know I know, I know Hey I'll leave the young thing alone But ain't no sunshine when she's gone Ain't no sunshine when she's gone Only darkness everyday Ain't no sunshine when she's gone And this house just ain't no home Anytime she goes away Anytime she goes away Anytime she goes away Anytime she goes away ***************************************** Artist: Bill Withers Lyrics Song: Use Me Lyrics My friends feel it's their appointed duty They keep trying to tell me All you want to do is use me Ha, ha, but my answer, ha, ha Yeah, to all that use me stuff Is I wanna spread the news That if it feels this good getting used Oh, you just keep on using me Until you use me up Until you use me up My brother, sit me right down And he talked to me, ah-ha He told me, ah-ha That I ought not to let you just walk on me And I'm sure he meant well Yeah, but when our talk was through I-I-I said brother, if you only knew You'd wish that you were in my shoes You just keep on using me Until you use me up Until you use me up Oh sometimes, it's true you really do abuse me You get in a crowd of high class people And then you act real rude to me But oh baby, baby, baby, baby When you love me I can't get enough I-I and I, wanna spread the news That if it feels this good getting used Oh, you just keep on using me Until you use me up Until you use me up Talking about you using me But it all depends on what you do It ain't too bad the way you're using me 'Cause I sure am using you To do the things you do Ah-ha, to do the things you do __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

04-06-2007, 05:40 PM	#10
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Artist: Etta James Lyrics Song: At Last Lyrics At last my love has come along my lonely days over and life is like a song Ooh At last the skies above are blue well my heart was wrapped up in clover the night I looked at you I found a dream that I could speak to a dream that I could call my own I found a thrill to press my cheek to a thrill that I have never known well You smile you smile oh and then the spell was cast and here we are in heaven for you are mine at last I found a dream that I could speak to a dream that I could call my own I found a thrill to press my cheek to a thrill that I have never known well You smile you smile oh and then the spell was cast and here we are in heaven for you are mine at last ooo yea you are mine you are mine at last at last at last at last __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

04-06-2007, 05:49 PM	#11
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Title: Never Can Say Goodbye lyrics Artist: The Jackson 5 Chorus: Never can say goodbye No no no no, I Never can say goodbye Even though the pain and heartache Seems to follow me wherever I go Though I try and try to hide my feelings They always seem to show Then you try to say you're leaving me And I always have to say no... Tell me why Is it so That I Never can say goodbye No no no no, I Never can say goodbye Everytime I think I've had enough I start heading for the door There's a very strange vibration piercin me right to the core It says turn around you fool You know you love her more and more Tell me why (tell me why) Is it so (is it so) Don't wanna let you go! I can never can say goodbye girl (never can say goodbye girl) ou ou baby (don't wanna let you go girl) I never can say goodbye no no no no no no no no no no no ou! oh! I never can say goodbye girl (never can say goodbye girl) ouuuuuuuu ouuuuuuuuuu never can say goodbye no no no no no no no no no no no (chorus) I keep thinkin that our problems Soon are all gonna work out But there's that same unhappy feeling and there's that anguish, there's that doubt It's the same old did ya hang up Can't do with you or without Tell me why Is it so Don't wanna let you go [Chorus] (and ad libs) [Repeat till fade] __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

04-06-2007, 10:39 AM	#5
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	grins it means 'two pennies worth'

04-06-2007, 03:06 PM	#6
piercehawkeye45 Franklin Pierce Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Minnesota Posts: 3,695	Damn Brits... Dana brought up a really good point though. You just need to relax and not let everything stress you out, it is much easier that way to enjoy yourself.

04-06-2007, 05:38 PM	#8
elSicomoro Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 12,486	You know, now that I finally found someone that will put up with my shit...the relationship just sorta happened. We had already known each other for 7 years and spent about a month just getting to know each other better before things ramped up. I really believe it was meant to happen that way...I just went with the flow and the flow took me to the right spot.

04-07-2007, 09:55 PM	#13
freshnesschronic Professor Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,555	Yep. Everything's good between us. For now. Hopefully it will last though. So all these song lyrics supposed to represent my new outlook on life and relationships, huh?

04-07-2007, 10:02 PM	#14
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	That was al good BigV UNTILL you quoted the jackson 5 , Michael has RUINED any chance of them being good any more !! __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

04-07-2007, 10:14 PM	#15
freshnesschronic Professor Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,555	Is that a joke? Michael made the Jackson 5. Forget his personal life, as an artist he is the GREATEST singer ever and an extraordinary songwriter and musician. Arguable the greatest musical artist of the century. Musically, he is pure genius. Anyone seen that Chapelle's show clip with Dave in the courtroom? "He made Thrilla. Thrilla."

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