Very Bad Day

morethanpretty · 10-17-2008, 04:37 PM

My step-grandfather passed away this morning at 4AM. He'd been ill and in hospice care, but I hadn't seen him before the decline that put him in hospice. My nanny and he are down in south Texas, and with school and work I can't make it down there. I found out about his passing right before going into work, so immediately went and told my manager and called in an employee to replace me. The replacement wouldn't be able to make it for two hours or so, so I was nice and stayed to help out. We get busy, I need extra help. So I go ask the only person that isn't dealing with customers to help. That's the dishwasher, V, we get along OK but it doesn't seem to matter how nice I try to be to him, he thinks I'm bossy and bitchy. He doesn't come help after the first time I ask him, and I'm not even sure he heard me the first time, so I go ask a second time a bit louder, and with a bit more desperation (we're really swamped). He comes up front starts helping, then stops to start griping me out about how I asked him for help, that I was rude blah blah blah. I know I had said please. I'm stuck where I'm at tryin to expo and keep track of all my tickets (and a few orders that had been messed up). I'm just tryin to tell him I hadn't yelled at him blah blah blah...I feel jumpy, cornered, and damn defensive by this point. The manager walks up to me, "What's wrong." I don't know why I did but I jumped and told him "He needs to leave me alone, I'll quit." The "quit" part might've been a yell...
I immediately realized I'd freaked, brought my tone down and mngr and I went to the office. I try to explain to mngr about the prob and previous probs (and this isn't my first complaint either), he tells me to go ahead and go and do what I need to do today. So I leave.
About 3, mom and I are on our way home from the funeral home and making arrangements, same mngr calls me. "Well I talked to the GM and we're going to go ahead and terminate you."
Motherfuckingcuntkickingbootlickingasswipes.

Sheldonrs · 10-17-2008, 04:49 PM

I'm so sorry about your step-grandfather. *HUG*

And I'm sure you'll be able to get another job soon. But 1st concentrate on being there for yourself and your family.

Treasenuak · 10-17-2008, 04:54 PM

oh, MTP, what an awful day. I'm sorry to hear about your step-grandfather... and the situation at work certainly didn't help

-big hugs- I hope things start looking up for you shortly!

Sundae · 10-17-2008, 05:05 PM

MTP it's horrible to get rejection on top of loss.
I'm sure you know they're not a place worth working for, especially if they can effectively fire you over the phone during a period of grief.

Be angry and hurt, then put it behind you. You have more important things to focus on than a bunch of sods like that.

You will find work again soon, and the chances are it will be a better place, because their actions have proved what a bad place it was for you.

Cicero · 10-17-2008, 05:13 PM

Go ahead. Have tourettes...let it go...Lemme help...

Those guys are major fucktards for terminating someone that had a death in the family.

I am now very hesitant about coming in to work at a restaraunt on Sunday. That's how petty people are all the time, at these kinds of places. hmmm...

This gives you plenty of time to find something better.

Juniper · 10-17-2008, 07:22 PM

I'm so sorry about your step-grandpa. Ditto what everyone else said, they're not worth working for.

Many times I've found that terrible things do tend to pile one upon another, and always - almost always - there's a silver lining buried in there someplace. It may take a while to find it.

BTW I swore a LONG time ago I would never again work in food service. My DH was a restaurant cook for a long time, too. Blech.

zippyt · 10-17-2008, 07:33 PM

Oh that Sucks bad , watch out from my experence this shit generly comes in 3's !!!!

Cloud · 10-17-2008, 10:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cicero

Those guys are major fucktards for terminating someone that had a death in the family.

Quoted for Truth.

You're right; that's a very bad day. Here's hoping your future days will all be better!

Tulip · 10-17-2008, 10:20 PM

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, both your grandfather and your job. My sympathies to your loss. And as for your job, is it okay for the manager to just fire you like that? You didn't turn in any kinds of notices, and you had permission to leave.

Crimson Ghost · 10-17-2008, 11:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cicero

Those guys are major fucktards for terminating someone that had a death in the family.

Fuck them. They're assholes.

My condolences.

jinx · 10-18-2008, 12:02 AM

Aw, I'm sorry moar, that all sucks...

skysidhe · 10-18-2008, 08:05 AM

terrible news

I feel for ya. Take care

SteveDallas · 10-18-2008, 09:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tulip

And as for your job, is it okay for the manager to just fire you like that? You didn't turn in any kinds of notices, and you had permission to leave.

Sure it's ok. The overwhelming majority of jobs in the US are "at will," which basically means you can be fired any time for any reason--or none at all. Quality employers will actually have procedures to follow, and may even offer a severance payment if you're terminated "without cause," but even then they rarely give up their right to fire when ready.

Trilby · 10-18-2008, 10:14 AM

That's just awful, MTP. My condolences for your loss but, honey, as far as th job goes----be HAPPY. They sound like a bunch of losers and you need to move on. Change is good. Change is right. Embrace it and you will see how it helped you grow.

You're in my thoughts!!

wolf · 10-18-2008, 10:37 AM

When you quit you move on and get a new job. When you are terminated, you can go file for unemployment and coast for a couple months and then get a new job.

Congratulations, you're better off without the worthless bastards.

Sorry to hear about Step-Grampy.

10-17-2008, 04:37 PM	#1
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	Very Bad Day My step-grandfather passed away this morning at 4AM. He'd been ill and in hospice care, but I hadn't seen him before the decline that put him in hospice. My nanny and he are down in south Texas, and with school and work I can't make it down there. I found out about his passing right before going into work, so immediately went and told my manager and called in an employee to replace me. The replacement wouldn't be able to make it for two hours or so, so I was nice and stayed to help out. We get busy, I need extra help. So I go ask the only person that isn't dealing with customers to help. That's the dishwasher, V, we get along OK but it doesn't seem to matter how nice I try to be to him, he thinks I'm bossy and bitchy. He doesn't come help after the first time I ask him, and I'm not even sure he heard me the first time, so I go ask a second time a bit louder, and with a bit more desperation (we're really swamped). He comes up front starts helping, then stops to start griping me out about how I asked him for help, that I was rude blah blah blah. I know I had said please. I'm stuck where I'm at tryin to expo and keep track of all my tickets (and a few orders that had been messed up). I'm just tryin to tell him I hadn't yelled at him blah blah blah...I feel jumpy, cornered, and damn defensive by this point. The manager walks up to me, "What's wrong." I don't know why I did but I jumped and told him "He needs to leave me alone, I'll quit." The "quit" part might've been a yell... I immediately realized I'd freaked, brought my tone down and mngr and I went to the office. I try to explain to mngr about the prob and previous probs (and this isn't my first complaint either), he tells me to go ahead and go and do what I need to do today. So I leave. About 3, mom and I are on our way home from the funeral home and making arrangements, same mngr calls me. "Well I talked to the GM and we're going to go ahead and terminate you." Motherfuckingcuntkickingbootlickingasswipes. __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

10-17-2008, 04:49 PM	#2
Sheldonrs Master Dwellar Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 4,412	I'm so sorry about your step-grandfather. HUG And I'm sure you'll be able to get another job soon. But 1st concentrate on being there for yourself and your family. __________________ Laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and the world laughs AT you.

10-17-2008, 05:05 PM	#4
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	MTP it's horrible to get rejection on top of loss. I'm sure you know they're not a place worth working for, especially if they can effectively fire you over the phone during a period of grief. Be angry and hurt, then put it behind you. You have more important things to focus on than a bunch of sods like that. You will find work again soon, and the chances are it will be a better place, because their actions have proved what a bad place it was for you. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

10-17-2008, 05:13 PM	#5
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	Go ahead. Have tourettes...let it go...Lemme help... Those guys are major fucktards for terminating someone that had a death in the family. I am now very hesitant about coming in to work at a restaraunt on Sunday. That's how petty people are all the time, at these kinds of places. hmmm... This gives you plenty of time to find something better. __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

10-17-2008, 07:33 PM	#7
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Oh that Sucks bad , watch out from my experence this shit generly comes in 3's !!!! __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

10-17-2008, 04:54 PM	#3
Treasenuak Multiorgasmic and wrapped in plastic Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Central Tennessee Posts: 483	oh, MTP, what an awful day. I'm sorry to hear about your step-grandfather... and the situation at work certainly didn't help -big hugs- I hope things start looking up for you shortly!

10-17-2008, 07:22 PM	#6
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	I'm so sorry about your step-grandpa. Ditto what everyone else said, they're not worth working for. Many times I've found that terrible things do tend to pile one upon another, and always - almost always - there's a silver lining buried in there someplace. It may take a while to find it. BTW I swore a LONG time ago I would never again work in food service. My DH was a restaurant cook for a long time, too. Blech.

10-17-2008, 10:20 PM	#9
Tulip Professor Join Date: May 2008 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 1,293	I'm sorry to hear of your loss, both your grandfather and your job. My sympathies to your loss. And as for your job, is it okay for the manager to just fire you like that? You didn't turn in any kinds of notices, and you had permission to leave.

10-18-2008, 12:02 AM	#11
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	Aw, I'm sorry moar, that all sucks... __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

10-18-2008, 08:05 AM	#12
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	terrible news I feel for ya. Take care

10-18-2008, 10:14 AM	#14
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	That's just awful, MTP. My condolences for your loss but, honey, as far as th job goes----be HAPPY. They sound like a bunch of losers and you need to move on. Change is good. Change is right. Embrace it and you will see how it helped you grow. You're in my thoughts!! __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

10-18-2008, 10:37 AM	#15
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	When you quit you move on and get a new job. When you are terminated, you can go file for unemployment and coast for a couple months and then get a new job. Congratulations, you're better off without the worthless bastards. Sorry to hear about Step-Grampy. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

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