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Old 06-14-2008, 01:56 AM   #1
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The inch is down

Today was a very weird day. The beginning of extra weird began at about 6pm when inch was running in the yard with one of his friends and he did a face plant and began screaming in a slightly over the top way. It sounded like actual pain, but only fractionally more than the low blood sugar/emotionally intense/end of a long day/ bruised ego kind of scream.

Still it had a hint of authenticity to it. Custom G ran outside and I actually walked over to the screen door and called out.

G carries inch into the house and he is doing his "feedback loop" thing where he hypnotizes himself into some kind of trance which involves his hyperventilating and crying and not making sense. I decide to go to the package/liquor/wine store before they close, figuring G can field this one, he probably needs a 20 minute break from high glee and a snack to stabilize him.

I'm gone about 30 minutes and return expecting hiim to be smiling on the couch, snack and drink in hand explaining why grave digger can crush outlaw. (monster trucks) instead he is exactly as I left him although no longer crying as loudly. G is mouthing "I'll tell you about it later..." implying a new level of crocodillian emotion.

My spidey sense tells me otherwise and I sit down with him and start asking him questions about where it hurts, does this hurt? etc. He is consistent in his story about what hurts and he isn't a boy who cries wolf! so I have no reason to disbelieve him. He says his knee hurts, I can't even say I want to look at it or he screams and he can't turn his foot. He can move his toes.

"how did this happen?" "I fell on some sticks and rocks." I don't see any signs of impact injury, but I point to various spots and ask if they hurt. "Point to where it hurts." He points to a spot where there is no mark. The he says "I was turning a corner really fast..." and I wonder ACL? I get up and he screams again, I touched his toe.

We go to our "as useless as tits on a bull" emergency center only to wait 45 minutes to see a doc who tells us we need to go to the hospital 25 min away. We get to the hospital which we should have just gone directly to (and we know better, why we thought today would be different...)

The staff at this hospital (southern Vermont Medical Center) are fantastic. Really, really superb, gentle, thoughtful, patient centered, caring people. We can't say enough good things about them.(both the inch and the Millimeter were born there)
Xray shows a fracture of the Tibia just below the knee.

Mom feels like shit because she thought he was faking and being a pussy. She really doesn't handle other people's illnesses well at all. Now she feels really bad and Inch is too young yet to realize how far he can milk the guilt.

They give him a shot of morphine so they can splint him. I'm hanging out with him as the shit kicks in and he is fucking hilarious. I see his whole internal dialogue verbalized. I wish I'd ahd a pen and paper. One thing I remember is an orderly comes into the room to empty the trash and as she is walking out Inch shouts after her "My grandmother has a shirt just like that." The he turns to me and says "It has cows on it. She must like cows."

The whole ride home was filled with his perceptions of the world and the conclusions he drew from those perceptions. He's sleeping now, but the morphine should be wearing off shortly.

Poor little guy. What a day.
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Old 06-14-2008, 02:08 AM   #2
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Sorry to hear about that.

Glad to hear you had a good Radiology experience. If you can get those films on disc, and if the disc has jpegs as well as DICOM images, you could extract the jpegs (or screenshot the DICOMs) and post them in that thread where people post their medical pictures. [/Radiology Geek]

I always heard this story about how my ex mother-in-law thought her son was faking being hurt, because he was honsetly a real whiner, but then it turned out he had a broken something or other, and she felt so bad he ended up getting a bunch of Star Wars toys out of it.
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Old 06-14-2008, 08:58 AM   #3
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Wow, he must have twisted/smacked it, pretty good.
Fortunately, it'll heal quickly and won't bother him again... until he's 50 and the weather changes.
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Old 06-14-2008, 10:41 AM   #4
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Glad he's doing a little better now, foot. Is it splinted with his knee held immobile? What a way to start the summer.
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Old 06-14-2008, 10:57 AM   #5
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feel better, inch!
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Old 06-14-2008, 11:04 AM   #6
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Damn foots !!!

The Inch has his First real battle scar !!!!
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Old 06-14-2008, 11:07 AM   #7
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A very long time ago I was playing baseball in gym class and this kid runs into me. I hit the ground screaming, and the gym teacher/coach told me to run it off. It turned out I had a fractured kneecap.

Joint injuries are tough to for anyone to diagnose. The point is that you ended up doing the right thing. If there was no blood, it was reasonable to wait and see if the pain went away. At least you didn't try to have him run laps.
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Old 06-14-2008, 11:14 AM   #8
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Joint injuries are tough to for anyone to diagnose. The point is that you ended up doing the right thing. If there was no blood, it was reasonable to wait and see if the pain went away. At least you didn't try to have him run laps.
... or rub dirt on it and tell him to run it off.

Rich is right - nothing you could have done would have been better than what you did. Let the child calm down, ask questions, it sounds serious so go to the hospital. Bingo.

Don't be too hard on your wife - she's probably suffered more than the Inch over this!
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Old 06-14-2008, 01:45 PM   #9
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Poor lil guy. Long hot summer for a cast
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Old 06-14-2008, 03:09 PM   #10
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Aww. Take care of the inchling. And it's hard for a mother to see her boy get hurt. Give inchmom lots of hugs too. I am sure she would appreciate it.
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Old 06-14-2008, 03:35 PM   #11
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reassure Custom G that boys do these kind of things ,
Stitches , broken bones , etc,,,,,
All part of growing up .
I have More than my share of Scares and war stories !!!
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Old 06-14-2008, 03:42 PM   #12
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you've just given yourself a father's day gift--you listened to your spidey sense. it's important to trust your intincts; mom would have figured it out, too--you were just a little faster. this time.

be loving.
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Rich is right
OMG, a woman who thinks I said something right.

Marry me.:p
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Old 06-14-2008, 07:16 PM   #14
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Damn. There's *nothing* worse than your kid hurting. Nothing.

Sounds like dad was on the job, though. Best wishes to your family, and especially to the inchmeister.
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Old 06-14-2008, 07:38 PM   #15
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Oh, poor babes. Hope he's feeling chipper again very soon.
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