Been there, done that as well. Jim & V are correct. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other & the other other...
Seriously - you were with her a loooong time. She knows just where & how to push every button you have. DON'T LET HER.
Maybe this will make you feel a little bit better ...
My ex got married 6 months after our divorce was final to a guy she met in AA. She just divorced him last summer & is now getting remarried next year on ... MY BIRTHDAY.
Wtfff?? Is it me or is that really creepy?