The Cellar - View Single Post - Tightening the reins without making it appear so

elSicomoro · 09-20-2014, 05:14 PM

It is very hard to determine what is normal behavior for a child his age, what is ADHD, what is Asperger's, what is Obstinate Defiant Disorder (yeah, he has that too), or...a combination. He meets certain age benchmarks, but is behind in most. He has a normal IQ, but probably has a mental age of 7 or 8. He has only been able to remember his birthday in the past 2 years, and has little to no concept of time. He has put our phone numbers on a silent ringtone. He can be incredibly crafty/sneaky, though we always catch him in the end. The TV was definitely deliberate...he realized he did wrong immediately though.

The Mrs just went to a meeting with all his teachers last week...a meeting that they wanted to have due to his repeated tardiness to classes and refusal to do work. We had warned them that these sort of things would probably happen. The kid simply has no desire to do school work. Actually, he simply only wants to do what he wants to do period. We don't think he's trying to be a malicious or evil child...but we want to steer him in the right direction so that he thinks he wants to do the things we'd like him to do.

Am I making sense?

09-20-2014, 05:14 PM	#5
elSicomoro Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 12,486	It is very hard to determine what is normal behavior for a child his age, what is ADHD, what is Asperger's, what is Obstinate Defiant Disorder (yeah, he has that too), or...a combination. He meets certain age benchmarks, but is behind in most. He has a normal IQ, but probably has a mental age of 7 or 8. He has only been able to remember his birthday in the past 2 years, and has little to no concept of time. He has put our phone numbers on a silent ringtone. He can be incredibly crafty/sneaky, though we always catch him in the end. The TV was definitely deliberate...he realized he did wrong immediately though. The Mrs just went to a meeting with all his teachers last week...a meeting that they wanted to have due to his repeated tardiness to classes and refusal to do work. We had warned them that these sort of things would probably happen. The kid simply has no desire to do school work. Actually, he simply only wants to do what he wants to do period. We don't think he's trying to be a malicious or evil child...but we want to steer him in the right direction so that he thinks he wants to do the things we'd like him to do. Am I making sense?