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I'm going to repeat my earlier assertion: she sounds like a dick.
Sadness serves a purpose as does any emotion. It is appropriate to feel sad sometimes.
Rainbow Bridge: I know the poem well. On the beardie site I went to after losing Pilau they all believe in the Bridge. I sort of play with the notion myself, it's a pleasant thought. Don't believe it in any real sense, but it's a lovely notion to imagine all the dogs there running free together :p
She also sounds like she doesn't know a fucking thing about dogs though. Connection isn't instant. This isn't like looking for a husband and wanting The One' with whom you instantly connect. They're animals (dogs, not husbands...:p) the connection is something you build. It's something you craft across time as you win the animal's respect and most likely adoration.
Take him back and get one who connects with you? Jesus fucking christ.
Also: has she considered the potential negative impact of feeling guilty if you do take him back? With the best will in the world, there's no way of diong it and not feeling a complete shit. I speak from experience on this - the only dog I ever let go: Sara, a stray J and I took in when we were simply not capable of caring for it. Dragged her about as we moved from rented room to rented flat and then another move and then, as we had thoroughly failed at being grownups and had to move bakc into our parents houses temporarily, she had to go to the shelter.
Truth be told she stood a better chance right then at the shelter than she did with us, we were on a total downward spiral (this was whne we were about 19).
Even though I knew we couldn't care for her properly, and hadn't connected in the way I have with other dogs since, I felt awful. I still feel guilty about that dog, even all these years later. Because actually, we should have left her where she was. She was doing ok. She had a number of people in the area who fed her and she curled up in whatever shed she could get into at night. We took her off the streets and after a brief spell of not being walked enough, fed the wrong foods and alternately fussed over and shouted at for a few months dropped her off to doggy prison to take her chances.
Sorry...that turned into a trip down memory lane...
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