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farfromhome · 05-01-2004, 11:24 PM

As an undersized shy kid in a big school system I thought about being cool a lot.Luckily for me in the 70's I had a whole bunch of kids in my neighborhood.Enough of us to form some sort of clique.Most were good friends and we helped each other.
What interests me about this topic is this:Is coolness something you're born with?(my opinon-small minority)
Or... is coolness some sort of extreme self confidence? The kind of confidence that says to others that I really don't give a rats ass what you think?
I pose this question to the cellar because I believe that my upbringing (without a father figure and a mother who was too tired to know what was going on with my life) influenced me a lot.I built up all these defenses that have stayed with me all my life.And its kind of sad.I am remote and sarcastic.I swore that no matter what that my sons upbringing would be better.And yet I see history repeating itself almost exactly.I feel so powerless.Please don't shut people out Travis(my son).

05-01-2004, 11:24 PM	#33
farfromhome Management Consultant Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Portland,OR/Conesus,NY Posts: 166	As an undersized shy kid in a big school system I thought about being cool a lot.Luckily for me in the 70's I had a whole bunch of kids in my neighborhood.Enough of us to form some sort of clique.Most were good friends and we helped each other. What interests me about this topic is this:Is coolness something you're born with?(my opinon-small minority) Or... is coolness some sort of extreme self confidence? The kind of confidence that says to others that I really don't give a rats ass what you think? I pose this question to the cellar because I believe that my upbringing (without a father figure and a mother who was too tired to know what was going on with my life) influenced me a lot.I built up all these defenses that have stayed with me all my life.And its kind of sad.I am remote and sarcastic.I swore that no matter what that my sons upbringing would be better.And yet I see history repeating itself almost exactly.I feel so powerless.Please don't shut people out Travis(my son). __________________ When you ain't got nothing-you ain't got nothing to lose.