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All of those. People in the first circle of those close to you, who get the chance over years and years to do real damage, and who do so with focus and deliberation.
It took years for me to learn that protecting myself doesn't mean I'm harming the narcissist. So far, among the narcissists I have had the misfortune to know/be related to, none have any intention of changing anything. So I keep my distance and try to fend off the FOG (fear-obligation-guilt) that wafts my way during attempts by these people to re-engage in old behavior patterns.
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The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi 
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