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Originally Posted by traceur
Judgement aside - The scary part Undertoad - is that the way you've expressed in the past a childhood of looking to see how your mom feels first - is a dynamic I could easily see developing. He developed very early on an extreme sensitivity to the emotional tapestry around him, and she has a very strong tendency to assert for others how they feel. It would be a very likely way for her to negotiate his emotions for the time after I left, probably establishing that dynamic as a direct result.
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No, the scary part is that you don't understand that this is how all children work, inherently. Occasionally they give equal thought to dad during the early years--more likely if they are girls--and maybe as they become teens that dynamic with mom FADES, but for any child younger than that it is the default from day one, not something that might develop.