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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce
What makes you think anyone's entitled to demand anyone else change their attitude/behavior to suit their opinion of what they should be?
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Nobody is "Entitled", entitlement is within the frameworks of rights, "I have a right for [what you feel entitled for], and it's not a matter of a right to have people change for you, it's not a framework of rights to begin with. You don't "have to" do anything, but you can be legitimately judged positively or negatively for what you do or don't do, and more importantly - that judgement can actually be correct or incorrect, true or false* - meaning it can be true - and the judgement doesn't end where your rights begin, nor should it, in ethics rights don't define what is right for you to do, just what is wrong of others to prevent you from doing. I have the right for free speech, but that doesn't mean saying certain things won't make me an asshole. Likewise, your friends might not be entitled to you to treat them well, but treating them badly will still make you into a bad friend.
The provincial mentality assumes and fears the judgement will carry over, mostly because it usually does - through reputation and rumors, forcing you to grow and adapt to others but in the same time not for the most genuine reasons. The urban mentality goes around it by replacing the judger with whoever doesn't have the negative judgement (yet), giving you a 2nd chance and releasing you from social obligations. In both cases social perceptions are the unfortunate replacement to better judgement calls or any general desire to treat others well.
*Doesn't really work in "good" vs. "bad" other then a shorthand for "good/bad for [person]", since values are subjective but how you stand next to them isn't.