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monster · 06-01-2015, 08:52 PM

Good on her. I feel her pain, I would hate to be "looked after" 24/7. Or at all, in fact.

Look at this this way, the soiled sheets are unlikely to cause her much discomfort and her sense of smell probably isn't all that great. She can stay awake reading all night if she wants with no-one nagging her. All her things are around her, the sounds are familiar, and no-one is being wheeled off on a gurney with a toe tag in the middle of the night.

She's in her dominion and can ask anyone who treats her unkindly to leave. She can make her own decisions, whether they're sensible or not. I can't understand someone happily relinquishing any control to anyone else, One night in hospital is absolute torture for me to the point where they agree it's better for me to be released, even if I just had a C-section the night before or a stroke. maybe she's the same way. Horses for courses, I guess.

Try to be happy that she's still her old self and has the balls to make decisions that are right for her rather than cowtowing to the wishes of her family members who want to make life easier/less worrisome for themselves. I know that sounds harsh, but think about it -she's clearly smart enough to know what risks she's taking. People want her in a home so THEY won't be worried -which is nice but in the end that's a thing about them not her

06-01-2015, 08:52 PM	#10268
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Good on her. I feel her pain, I would hate to be "looked after" 24/7. Or at all, in fact. Look at this this way, the soiled sheets are unlikely to cause her much discomfort and her sense of smell probably isn't all that great. She can stay awake reading all night if she wants with no-one nagging her. All her things are around her, the sounds are familiar, and no-one is being wheeled off on a gurney with a toe tag in the middle of the night. She's in her dominion and can ask anyone who treats her unkindly to leave. She can make her own decisions, whether they're sensible or not. I can't understand someone happily relinquishing any control to anyone else, One night in hospital is absolute torture for me to the point where they agree it's better for me to be released, even if I just had a C-section the night before or a stroke. maybe she's the same way. Horses for courses, I guess. Try to be happy that she's still her old self and has the balls to make decisions that are right for her rather than cowtowing to the wishes of her family members who want to make life easier/less worrisome for themselves. I know that sounds harsh, but think about it -she's clearly smart enough to know what risks she's taking. People want her in a home so THEY won't be worried -which is nice but in the end that's a thing about them not her __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart