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glatt · 04-07-2015, 08:45 AM

I was spanked. Sometimes my dad was angry when he spanked me, and it was terrifying. I don't think he was always in control of himself. I'm not sure what changed, but he got mellower and then didn't spank anymore. Maybe he recognized that he was not in control. I don't know. We don't talk about it. He evolved into the gentlest, greatest guy, so I see no need to open very old wounds. And I don't think I would characterize him as abusive, although he went overboard at times.

My mom spanked me too, but she was never overboard with it.

I doubt that spanking had any impact on my behavior. There were never any threats of spanking, empty or otherwise. I was just told to behave and if I didn't, and it was judged to be a serious enough offense, I was spanked.

I've never hit my kids. We don't spank in our house. They are polite in public and pretty good at home, but they fight with each other at times. So far, they both show good common sense and empathy. A basic respect for other people. I think they are turning out well, and I don't see how hitting them would make them better.

I try to be a good role model for them. I think they learn more from that.

04-07-2015, 08:45 AM	#1188
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I was spanked. Sometimes my dad was angry when he spanked me, and it was terrifying. I don't think he was always in control of himself. I'm not sure what changed, but he got mellower and then didn't spank anymore. Maybe he recognized that he was not in control. I don't know. We don't talk about it. He evolved into the gentlest, greatest guy, so I see no need to open very old wounds. And I don't think I would characterize him as abusive, although he went overboard at times. My mom spanked me too, but she was never overboard with it. I doubt that spanking had any impact on my behavior. There were never any threats of spanking, empty or otherwise. I was just told to behave and if I didn't, and it was judged to be a serious enough offense, I was spanked. I've never hit my kids. We don't spank in our house. They are polite in public and pretty good at home, but they fight with each other at times. So far, they both show good common sense and empathy. A basic respect for other people. I think they are turning out well, and I don't see how hitting them would make them better. I try to be a good role model for them. I think they learn more from that.