You know, I have a whole new appreciation for the neighborhood that I lived in and grew up in, and that despite the fact that I was overweight, I didn't get bothered because of it. I'll tell you why I think that was the case.
The atomsphere that I grew up in, and many of my friends grew up in, was like this:
Parent: "Don't let me hear about you hitting or bullying anyone, or else I'll teach you what a
REAL beatdown is like!!"
End of story in most cases. Sure, that might not "fly" in today's coddle-your-child society, but hell, it got the job done. Very little bullying. Basically, the law of the land was this: if you bullied someone, your ass was grass...period. Most of the time, it was merely a threat, but oh how it kept people in line, trust me! And if anyone *was* bullied, then the whole school would hear about it, and the bully was pretty much persona non grata.
Is it just me, or was there more bullying done in the 90s when everyone bowed at the temple of
Dr. Spock and the whole "Time out" thing? I swear, I saw and heard of more children out of control during that time period. They talked back to authority, had no respect for parents, threatened others..no wonder these kids now are practically allowed to run the asylum, as it were. And then, they are not properly punished when they do stupid things like bullying other classmates. I also say that they lack proper "home training" too.
Time out may work for
SOME kids, but some of these brats need more than that, IMO.
Sorry for the mini rant, but good luck with your situation Els. Sheesh, on top of everything else you have to deal with....*shakes head*.