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staceyv · 04-06-2004, 01:10 PM

i woudn't advise you to have him sit with a teacher at lunch or go to classes early, by himself. this will probably give those kids other reasons to make fun of him, and will make him feel more isolated. kids can be EVIL. the school can't change these kids. they can try their best to keep everyone safe, but there will still come a time when he is confronted in the bathroom, on the bus, walking home, etc.
i think the only way out of the situation would be to change schools. if you can't afford a private school, maybe the state would give you permission to let him attend a school outside of the district he lives in because of the special circumstances. he can have a fresh start. keep him in counseling! maybe the counselor can give him productive or at least better ways of dealing with harassment, since it might even happen at a new school. but, he would be starting over with no reputation as "the kid we like to pick on" and if he handles himself differently, maybe he could ward it off. if he shows them it bothers him, they do it even more. there has to be some way of conducting himself that would make it unrewarding for kids to pick on him, and i'm sure a good therapist would know what that manner was (or a good book..)
if changing schools is definitely not an option, what can you do?? kick all of the bad kids out of the school?, no. tell him to bring a weapon, because he's desperate for respect and for it to stop? -NO. really, what can you do if he's still going to that school with those kids??
if he was my son, my plan of action would be:
1) get permission to let him attend a different public school, or pay for a private school.
2) read some good books and articles on line about what to do if you're the victim of a bully.
3) keep him in counseling
4) make him feel better about himself! if he's overweight, work out with him, buy him a bike, get him a personal trainer, or SOME form of daily excercise, and put him on a diet. excercise and feeling good about your weight is great for mental health and confidence.
5) what the hell, ask him if he wants to dye his hair black before he goes to the new school. something about his hair seems to provoke carrot top jokes.
even better, do number 4 and maybe 5 over summer vacation, and in spring when he goes back to school, he will be feeling confident and even the little bastard kids won't find anything striking to make fun of him about!
sorry about such a long post. i had too much coffee, and i HATE it when evil kids hurt other, nice kids.
when i was little, a girl named "tawana" used to chase me home from school everyday....that's another thread.

04-06-2004, 01:10 PM	#12
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	i woudn't advise you to have him sit with a teacher at lunch or go to classes early, by himself. this will probably give those kids other reasons to make fun of him, and will make him feel more isolated. kids can be EVIL. the school can't change these kids. they can try their best to keep everyone safe, but there will still come a time when he is confronted in the bathroom, on the bus, walking home, etc. i think the only way out of the situation would be to change schools. if you can't afford a private school, maybe the state would give you permission to let him attend a school outside of the district he lives in because of the special circumstances. he can have a fresh start. keep him in counseling! maybe the counselor can give him productive or at least better ways of dealing with harassment, since it might even happen at a new school. but, he would be starting over with no reputation as "the kid we like to pick on" and if he handles himself differently, maybe he could ward it off. if he shows them it bothers him, they do it even more. there has to be some way of conducting himself that would make it unrewarding for kids to pick on him, and i'm sure a good therapist would know what that manner was (or a good book..) if changing schools is definitely not an option, what can you do?? kick all of the bad kids out of the school?, no. tell him to bring a weapon, because he's desperate for respect and for it to stop? -NO. really, what can you do if he's still going to that school with those kids?? if he was my son, my plan of action would be: 1) get permission to let him attend a different public school, or pay for a private school. 2) read some good books and articles on line about what to do if you're the victim of a bully. 3) keep him in counseling 4) make him feel better about himself! if he's overweight, work out with him, buy him a bike, get him a personal trainer, or SOME form of daily excercise, and put him on a diet. excercise and feeling good about your weight is great for mental health and confidence. 5) what the hell, ask him if he wants to dye his hair black before he goes to the new school. something about his hair seems to provoke carrot top jokes. even better, do number 4 and maybe 5 over summer vacation, and in spring when he goes back to school, he will be feeling confident and even the little bastard kids won't find anything striking to make fun of him about! sorry about such a long post. i had too much coffee, and i HATE it when evil kids hurt other, nice kids. when i was little, a girl named "tawana" used to chase me home from school everyday....that's another thread.