[lumberjim]

sometimes I wonder how I'm damaging my kids.
I came from a divorced family, saw dad every other weekend. I don't really feel any angst about it. I don't feel disappointed or resentful. I don't idolize Dad, but I do respect him. Mom did a very good job considering her challenges, and I appreciate her.
but sometimes, when I read something like this, I wonder. What will Ripley think of me in 20 years? will she blame one or the other of us for breaking up? will she give it any thought at all? and Spencer... I don't really think he's going to have any issues, but then maybe he does, and just won't share them.

I tell them I love them all the time. I am pretty sure they believe me. what else can you really do?

Why was your Father's love not enough, ortho? Because you think he'd rather have had a boy? I have both, and there are aspects of each I prefer.