Less than .9 ohms.
A fingerprint will give you .9 ohms, that's nothing. Sounds like the relay is cool.
Homeland security saw you were speeding and punished you by sending a signal on skynet for your car to hiccup, you know, just to scare you a little.
Sounds like at this point, without throwing a ton of money at it, or making it a possibly fruitless quest, you'll have to wait for a solid failure, or at least less intermittent symptoms.
As far as the pump not giving you that two seconds, it doesn't matter as long as it's starting right up when asked.