[headsplice]

I got lucky, all three (mom, father, stepdad) of my parents behaved like adult in front of my when I was growing up. Part of that is personality, but part of it is they read a book called "Mom's House, Dad's House." It basically sets up rules for parents who have kids living in two different places. I've since read it and it's really, really interesting to see how many of my folks' behaviors are straight out of the book.