I agree with OC , take the high ground , and stand your ground ( disiplin wise i meen ) . Let bioMom say what she wants , just live your life right and teach the kids to live right . Present a united front to the kids , ALL the kids . Never argue about their disipline in front of them . Treat every body as fairly as possable ( you and hubbie as well ) Don't let family ties break down , think about it your kids have 3 sets of grand parents now , 3 sets of Bday and Xmas presents !!!! And if any of the grandparents say " that ain't my grand baby " remind them that they don't HAVE to lavisch the presents on the Non- reletives but Some thing is nice .
I have 2 step kids , both in collage now . Bio Dad used to say ALL kinds of crap about us , the kids bought in to it for a while , then figuered out that he was full of shit .
They have both come to me seperetly and said thank you for being there for us . That freaked me out , because for the longest time i had the idea that they thought i was just the asshole married to their mom this time .
Good luck
