I forget what we spent 20 years ago, but I bet it was around $3-4k. This was in northern New Jersey, so nothing there was cheap.
I think it was something like this:
Dress: $800
flowers: $600
Rented house: $1200 (awesome place)
caterer: $2000
beer and wine: $500
Photographer: $600
Rehearsal dinner was probably about $1500 for the tent and food.
so that's $7,200. More than I thought. And maybe the caterer was a little more than that, so it could have been more like $8,500 total. Jeez.