[BigV]

Well, as far as I know, it did work for them, until it didn't. I really like your grandmother's vows, that is some wise, wise thinking right there. For me, I married "until death do us part". Twice. And I'm still here. **All** relationships work until they don't, sometimes the reason they don't is one partner dies. Some survivors continue the relationship past that point (not necrophilia, you know what I mean).

I only know a little about the writer's current marriage, only what was shared in the post. From only that, it sounds ok for them and that's ok with me. In fact, I believe any given relationship is only what it is today. Certainly there's history to be considered but what you've got today is all you've got. Each of us has to get up and do our best as a partner, to hope for the best. All kinds of relationships are temporary, some longer than others. For me, the ones that are the healthiest, the best, are the ones that have each party voluntarily participating with enough information about what's going on that they can make that informed choice. That's key, informed choice; consent. Without that, no shape of relationship should be considered valid.