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I have a different take on this, foot. I think you're being set up. Your wife is saying that the two facts that a) you've been diagnosed with depression and b) you have guns add up to a threat to her, she's involved someone else and given him/her this story, and will undoubtedly give this tale to her attorney, if she hasn't done so already. It's one way of having you removed from the house.

I'd suggest seeing an attorney asap. You mention that the guns don't have particular significance to you so you may want to let them go - let your attorney know that your wife has taken your guns, worth $xxx, and don't buy into the game of her 'letting' you have them back.

She's telling you that she sees you 'not talking to her' as a form of abuse and a sign of serious depression and possible threat. (A relative of mine, who suffers from a personality disorder, made this claim during her divorce. It didn't get her very far but your situation is different.) In that context, her removing the guns because she says she doesn't feel safe is a huge red flag that signals how she is going to proceed as you separate.

Please get legal advice asap. You don't want to be removed by police and have to fight an uphill battle re your children. Sorry this is happening. I'm with Grav - I think this is a line that can't be uncrossed because of all the implications. You can't force her to leave and you shouldn't leave yourself until you get legal advice, but this is a shot across your bow. Sorry.