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Undertoad · 03-01-2004, 01:18 PM

Stace,

The good news is that your story is not at its end, and while you feel out of control of your situation, it's only you who will write the rest of your story.

The truth, I believe, is simpler than you or anyone else thinks it is.

You have come to think of your situation as bad, and you have found all the bad in it. But you know, it's still up to you to find the good in it.

You have found all the bad in it, and concentrated on that. What comes of it? Well now you have experienced the worst possible feeling; you have dug into the bad of every part of your life, and at the end of it, you still have a life and you still care and you still want to improve your lot.

*Success*. Many people get to that point and never care again, and live lives of terrible desperation and experience no joy. They choose not to care. You care. Ergo you have one component of what you need.

You *feel* stuck in your current job, but you aren't really, and you know that. You're a little scared to test the waters and try to find an employer who will allow you your time. What is the downside of testing those waters? None. You only feel stuck; you are not actually stuck.

You can't exercise because your job requires you to life heavy trays and walk around with them? This is a "duh" moment Stace... you don't really need exercise if your job is exercising you!! We desk sitters need exercise, not you. So: *success* - you have found a job where you move around and lift things, and you can spend your spare time writing music instead.

Hair growing part: this is the really cool thing, and I swear it's totally true: guys LOVE variation. We love it when you women look different all the time. And as a woman you have the glorious luxury of trying out different looks all the time; and while you grow it out you can try all kinds of things, until you get the style that fits your cut that month, and suddenly a new look and *success* who wants to be the same all the time anyway?

No friends - aside from the ones in this thread. *success*

Every day, there will be a moment of joy that you can find. If you think differently, every customer will not be a potential asshole, but a potential moment of happiness. When you find the good and treasure it, it will do you good in the long run.

Look at how your experience with assholes affected you. You took it seriously, and it hurt you. It hurt you much longer and harder than it did during the time when you had to deal with the assholes. It stayed with you for days, and during those days it put a dark cloud over your head.

And now you are concentrating on the cloud!

You have the power to not let that happen; all you need to do is to treasure the good moments, and let the bad moments roll off your back.

03-01-2004, 01:18 PM	#10
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Stace, The good news is that your story is not at its end, and while you feel out of control of your situation, it's only you who will write the rest of your story. The truth, I believe, is simpler than you or anyone else thinks it is. You have come to think of your situation as bad, and you have found all the bad in it. But you know, it's still up to you to find the good in it. You have found all the bad in it, and concentrated on that. What comes of it? Well now you have experienced the worst possible feeling; you have dug into the bad of every part of your life, and at the end of it, you still have a life and you still care and you still want to improve your lot. Success. Many people get to that point and never care again, and live lives of terrible desperation and experience no joy. They choose not to care. You care. Ergo you have one component of what you need. You feel stuck in your current job, but you aren't really, and you know that. You're a little scared to test the waters and try to find an employer who will allow you your time. What is the downside of testing those waters? None. You only feel stuck; you are not actually stuck. You can't exercise because your job requires you to life heavy trays and walk around with them? This is a "duh" moment Stace... you don't really need exercise if your job is exercising you!! We desk sitters need exercise, not you. So: success - you have found a job where you move around and lift things, and you can spend your spare time writing music instead. Hair growing part: this is the really cool thing, and I swear it's totally true: guys LOVE variation. We love it when you women look different all the time. And as a woman you have the glorious luxury of trying out different looks all the time; and while you grow it out you can try all kinds of things, until you get the style that fits your cut that month, and suddenly a new look and success who wants to be the same all the time anyway? No friends - aside from the ones in this thread. success Every day, there will be a moment of joy that you can find. If you think differently, every customer will not be a potential asshole, but a potential moment of happiness. When you find the good and treasure it, it will do you good in the long run. Look at how your experience with assholes affected you. You took it seriously, and it hurt you. It hurt you much longer and harder than it did during the time when you had to deal with the assholes. It stayed with you for days, and during those days it put a dark cloud over your head. And now you are concentrating on the cloud! You have the power to not let that happen; all you need to do is to treasure the good moments, and let the bad moments roll off your back.